Loaner’s Remorse? a Conversation Between Juan Carlos and a Billionaire Named Yu

By Carl Pantejo

(Excerpt from: “My Friend Yu – The Prosperity Mentor,” copyright Carl Pantejo 2007 – Y.N. Vurce Publishing. http://www.ynvurcepublishing.com)

Note: In this article The Original Substance is the name used for: GOD, The One, Gaya, Infinite Intelligence, The Universe, etc. Please substitute this name with whatever name/word you are comfortable with.

A conversation between Juan Carlos “J.C.” and a billionaire named Yu:

…Even though I have a Master of Business Administration degree, I chronically found myself in the same situation: Too much month left over after the money. My friends thought I was a sap, too nice all the time. It’s just that when I saw someone in need, I felt compelled to help. Here in Thailand, it seemed that EVERYONE WAS IN NEED! IN NEED OF MY MONEY! Crying women would come over to my apartment and tell me all their troubles. I believed about one-half of those tales of woe.

“…In Asia, unless you are a bank or a loan shark, it’s common knowledge that there’s really no such thing as “loaning money” to people you know, you simply give it. If they pay you back, fine; but realistically, you shouldn’t expect to ever get it back. Consequently, I ended up giving, not loaning, a lot of my meager teacher’s salary to those people I believed were telling me the truth about their current crisis. Unfortunately for me, and I’m sure you’ve noticed this too; almost all Asians believe that all foreigners are wealthy, “Walking ATM’s”! This lead to most of the recipients to not repaying any money back at all; even when they were able to; because those foreigners are all rich and don’t need the money anyway.” I said, with the bitterness that comes from “loaner’s remorse.”

“J.C., first off; don’t let your friends make you feel like you’ve been a patsy, a pawn that unscrupulous people have manipulated in the past. Your friends have a narrow view of the Universe. And you need not feel depressed at the “lost money” you gave away. If you gave it away with goodness, a truly honest aim to help another human being in a real crisis (no ulterior motives, no strings attached); you will surely get a magnified, return of goodness back from the Universe. It may not be from the same person you helped; but from someone else they positively affected, or the person of the person they affected. It is okay to know that (and expect) a return of goodness from your benevolence. It will enable you to keep the faith and continue giving graciously, cheerfully. The mistake most people make in giving is to expect the positive return to come from the one, particular beneficiary (or beneficiaries) of their good deed. It doesn’t usually happen that way.

The Original Substance keeps perfect “karmic accounting records.” Sometimes many little good deeds on your part are “saved up,” then a huge positive return from the universe is given to you (usually in the form of something you really needed and always at the perfect time). It is inevitable. So, never feel taken advantage of or get into a depressed state over possibly giving something to someone that might have been undeserving. Just give and let it go. The Original Substance always remembers the spirit in which your gifts were given and, in its wonderful and surprising way, rewards you with a magnified return of the perfect goodness for you, at the perfect time for you.

One caveat: If the same people are chronically in need of your financial help and have grown always to depend on you instead of trying to help themselves, then this is not a crisis; it is a condition, a negative condition. In such instances, the best thing to do is show them how to better themselves. You’re not doing them (or you) any good when you nurture that kind of disempowering dependency. It’s the classic “give a man a fish” principle.

So what if some people were dishonest and accepted your money on false pretenses? You may never know; so let it go. Why waste time, energy, and emotion on an issue that may, or may not be true? And if you find out later that, yes, you were taken in by a con artist, don’t hold a grudge. FORGIVE THEM - NOT FOR THEM, BUT FOR YOU. THERE’S NOTHING POSITIVE FOR YOU IN KEEPING THE NEGATIVITY INSIDE. HARBORING NEGATIVITY WILL ONLY ATTRACT MORE NEGATIVITY. Rest assured. The Universe will still remember your true intentions and reward you; while returning an appropriate, magnified payback to the wrongdoer. Acting on true, honest intention is your job. Doing things in the Certain Way is you job. Fulfilling your desires and managing consequences is the Original Substance’s job. In the end, it’s all good…”

(Excerpt from: “My Friend Yu – The Prosperity Mentor,” copyright Carl Pantejo 2007 –Y.N. Vurce Publishing. http://www.ynvurcepublishing.com)

Carl Pantejo
Pantejo@ynvurcepublishing.com