Translating Experiences

Translating Experiences

by, TB Wright

www.onepennymillionaire.com 

            Experiences can be powerful and all encompassing. Their meaning to us can also be hard to define, and certainly hard to communicate to others. Depending upon how different from our everyday experiences they are, we can even go into denial about the effect of what we have gone through. This denial, and then the inherent difficulty of communicating experience directly to an other, are both ways we waste our valuable time and energy, when in truth, we can always benefit from our experiences regardless of what they are. Here's how.

            The first technique for establishing a clear pattern of practice regarding our relationship to experiences, would be to form a Life Purpose that is clear, short, and to the point. In doing this, then everything, and I mean everything, from that point of commitment onward, will be experienced within the context of your Life Purpose. For me, To share my writing with as many humans being as possible in a way that shifts their energy into a realization of Infinite Potential, is my Life Purpose. This purpose clarifies everything that I do, including each new experience I have. In this way, when things happen that I may not agree with, like, understand, or have planned on, that experience always, in some way, benefits me. And benefit is the key word. (Which by the way, until we take our stand based on our stated Life Purpose, who knows what effect any circumstance will ever have in our lives? Maybe that situation is the perfect one for our maximum benefit, and given our current perspective, we just don't see this truth. Or, even better, what may actually happen, is that when we establish our Life Purpose, what happens after that point then automatically forms into that which will best support us in fulfilling our life goals.)

            Either way, the establishment of a clearly stated Life Purpose, is something that so definitively supports our well being, and the manifestation of all our good, that to begin the process of doing so right now, may be one of the most important tasks you can ever set for yourself. So go ahead, do that setting of purpose now, and then just come back and finish this article! It's designed in a linear fashion, so you won't miss anything!

            Once your Life Purpose has been established, it then becomes increasingly clear as our lives unfold, how living within this context supports our translation of whatever happens from that moment onward in our lives. For instance, I have to deal with my ex-wife on an almost daily basis regarding our children. We get along usually, and then there's those times when's she's in upset. At those times, she automatically threatens me with taking away the kids, something that won't happen, but she makes the comment anyway. She knows she has an issue with this type of manipulation, I don't have to tell her that. But the funny thing is, given a violent childhood where I was confronted with threats both verbally and physically on a daily basis, some of which ended in violence, you can see why I don't do well with threats. At all.

            Yet, just as soon as this happens now, which though it isn't very often, is always too often, no matter how many times it occurs, I have a method for dealing with my own reaction, a method that is based on my Life Purpose and always has as its result, some benefit for me. First, I react. That can't be helped. I will never like being threatened. It feels like someone is aiming a rifle at me, ready to pull the trigger, and I most definitely don't want to die. Second, I recognize that I am reacting. This is so important. In that moment, I see myself and how my body is tightening up in those same exact places it always does, and I see those familiar feelings as signs that I need to assist myself in getting out of giving my power away, and back into my centeredness, so that my ex-wife and I can deal with the situation rather than batter each other with language. I breathe, and then remember that no matter what happens, I am going to use this experience in the context of my Life Purpose.

            What happens then? What happens is that what once would have been a situation where making up a reason for hating my ex-wife and then retaliating for "what she did" would be necessary, instead, I use the circumstance to further the fruition of my Life Purpose. That fruition, by the way, isn't something that's going to "someday" happen at the end of my life, but rather, has to happen in each moment of my life, on every day. In this way I can take any situation with my ex and use it to grow into being more powerful. What does that look like? What it looks like is that instead of shouting out hurtful words, which would be to voluntarily give my power away, words that have no meaning anyway, I stop that action on purpose and think. That's when I ask myself some pre-prepared questions that will get me to where I want to be; in my power. They might sound like: "What's really happening here?" Or, "What am I feeling here?" Even, "How can I communicate how I feel, and then after that, take care of what needs to be taken care of for the children, and in the best way I can?" Sometimes I don't even ask these questions, but instead, I react so powerfully that I can't ask myself a thing at that time. That's when I intentionally stop the dialog, and let her go on until at one point she always realizes what's she's doing, and whether she acknowledges that fact or not, stops. There's just no way to have a battle with someone who isn't battling. The sequence is breathe, relax, and then move on.

            Is this shift an easy thing to do? Have you ever talked to my ex-wife when she was upset? Of course it isn't easy, but what happens out of this choice to respond over reacting, is that the situation then becomes a circumstance that teaches me something valuable. Sometimes it could be a valuable piece of information about myself, such as how I react on auto-pilot when people threaten me, or it could be something about someone else, such as how to deal with someone who is upset without taking their head off and making the situation worse. Because when you take someone's power away, you are also taking your own power away. Rob someone of their power, and they're going to look to get some more from somewhere, and guess where that somewhere usually is? That's right, right from you. If you want to really bask in your power, then give someone power when it looks like they're scared, upset, or trying to take yours away from you. The experience will blow your mind. Hearts are healed in this way, as well as all manner of relationships.

            Even in dealing with my kids I often am confronted with situations that feel like power struggles, especially with my teenage daughter. Great! Where once I had so many judgments about her behavior, I now bask in being with her in the most loving way possible, regardless of how she acts. In this way, my ego is delightfully trimmed, and in turn, it is me, who lives a better life out of our interactions, and out of my letting go. She also gets to live a better life, because she is nurtured by my unconditional love. And then on the experiential interpretation side, since all that I be, do, or have, occurs within the context of my Life Purpose, I then use our experiences together to write about things that are earthy, such as raising children, and in turn my work reaches so many more people in a way that opens up the door to their own shifts in energy, and to a realization their full potential as well. There it is, that alignment of everything that happens in my life within the context of my stated Life Purpose.

            Then there are those situations that just don't seem to make any sense. Some days I get up, prepare myself lovingly for the day, and then everything seems to go wrong. Well, never everything, because if you charted that statement in reality, it would be more like a few things went wrong, and then out of judging them, they were blown out of significance, and into something other than what they really were. Hitting my hand on the side of that sharp table edge, means nothing, except what I make it mean, period. Yet that small occurrence can precipitate all manner of judgments about how I am "treating myself" and in line with some New Age Thought, I even used to begin a process of fixing myself so I wouldn't do that again. When in fact, to be simply doing The Loving Process© from Be BAD! Do Good! How To Get What You Want In Spite Of Yourself! and then out of creating a fuller experience of loving myself and all that I am, in toto, that hand banging has the best chance of never happening again. Because when we are immersed within a deep experience of our own self-love, we begin to treat ourselves better in both conscious and subconscious ways.

 One of the most powerful experiences I have ever had, was to demand from Source when I was embarking on a spiritual journey to South America to work with Shamans and curanderos there, that I "know everything" and then what came out of that was a realization of the truth that I could not do that. Afterwards, an acceptance of the fact that not knowing everything, was okay, then came to me. What freedom! Then, following that acceptance, I began to have more "knowings" than I had ever had in my life! That's what giving up attachment can do for you, me, or any one of us. That's also what a statement of Life Purpose can achieve for us. Because to have experiences where we just don't know what happened, or why, and may never really know the reasons for, such as the many things that happened to me and through me, in Peru, no longer disturbs me. It's okay to not know, or even to have some areas where I will never know. But what happens when I live my life in this "not knowing" within the context of my Life Purpose, is that even this not knowing supports the fulfillment of my purpose. In this way, knowing or not, everything that happens as an experience, regardless of what meaning I interpret out of it, is in right and perfect alignment with the fruition of all of my goals, because nothing can be outside of the context of the Life Purpose I live my life within. And ironically, that "within" is in no way constrictive, because it always includes everything that happens.

            So the thing to do so that you can begin to reap the benefits of living out of your stated Life Purpose is to write it down and then speak it out. In that speaking, the invitation is to say it like this: I, __________(your name) hereby in this now, right now, commit all that I be, do, and have, to the successful fruition of my stated Life Purpose of ____________all for the greater good of Source, myself, and all those around me. And it is done!

            There you have it. You can go and be well! And as you now live out every experience you have, regardless of how you feel about it, you can always harvest a benefit for yourself from it. Because you can!