The Indigo Childhood That Never Was

I am repeatedly asked by frustrated parents how to raise their Indigo children.  Not claiming to be an expert in anything to do with children puts me at odds with this line of questioning.  I don’t see many children in my practice.  Having lived through the struggles and pain of overcoming my learning disability and always being “different” left me with a strong notion that if dyslexia is in fact a genetic trait I certainly was not going to be who would pass it on.  Even so, I have made some observations along the way through my “becoming” process.  The majority of the kids who seem to be exhibiting rebellious behavior that I speak to today don’t seem to have long-term goals.  They lack a certain passion for their future and how they see themselves fitting in to the world as we know it today.  It is almost as if they inherently know that the world they will soon inherit doesn’t even exist yet. 

When you ask them what they want to do when they grow up, many haven’t a clue.  The older ones, say 10 – 16 seem to bounce around from one interest focus to the next without an apparent rudder that can steer them in any one direction.  When pushed by well meaning parents they lash out and resist the pressure of having to decide what seems to them to be such a menial topic.  What do they know that their parents don’t?  Why do they seem so cavalier regarding one of the greatest decisions of their life?

All I can offer is my one experience of having lived through this process of being an Indigo kid in the process of “becoming” in the face of already “knowing.”  For me there was never any question.  I came in as a healer and followed that path at times unconsciously until it revealed itself to me.  This path was already pre-paved before I was aware it even existed.  Most of the memorable and riveting experiences I now remember as an adult had to do with following the cornels of truth that showed up in my daily life leading me ever forward in this process.   It was as if there was nothing that would stand in my way of connecting to the mission I came here to accomplish, even though I questioned though out what that mission was.  By the time I had the answer, I also realized I had been doing it all along.  It was so close to me, I couldn’t see it.           

So my advice to parents who somehow think it is their sole responsibility to do what ever they can to feather the nest and provide every experience and tool necessary for their child’s survival out in there in the great, big, huge, scary, competitive world that awaits just outside their front door is this.  Be light parents.  Your job is to do the best you can to foster the broadest experience that you can offer.  Make sure to create a balance between these kids’ ego and their self image.  They should never brag or boast about their seemingly supernatural traits and characteristics. They should be humble and carry a quiet sense of self assuredness.  Expose them to other adults who can assist them on there journey.  These children walk a divine path.  They have already written their scripts before they entered this dimension and chose you to help foster their unique development.  You have already passed their test. Feel the honor they have already bestowed upon you.

Know that the struggles you see them go through all are part of their particular grooming process that they have selected to be initiated into the select tribe of spiritual warriors.  You cannot and should not save them from these “tempering of the metal” experiences that are there for them to build a character vast enough to hold all that they are capable of.  They need these seemingly painful experiences in order to connect to their full and true selves.  Know that you cannot fail or make a mistake with guiding these kids into the world.  Remember, they are not yours.  You are there to foster their re-entry and give them all you have to offer.  They will accept your gifts with gratitude and be on their way.  Let them go knowing you did the very best you could and fulfilled the contract that was forged far before you even thought of having children. 

Janine Talty, D.O., M.P.H.

6/09/2009