Intercultural Relationships and the White Male

<h1>Intercultural Relationships and the White Male</h1>Author: <a title="Christopher Gerdes" href="http://www.articlesbase.com/authors/christopher-gerdes/197574.htm">Christopher Gerdes</a>            American men who settle into intercultural relationships are of a certain type. Some distinct undercurrent exists in our personalities. In a sense we are of stripped identity. Or maybe a more accurate description is that we have never been fully clothed to begin with.            We have generally few strong values and are prone to succumb to other more well defined individuals, namely of strong willed captivating women. It is as if we are trying to fill our lives. We are often survivors of parents with weak personalities, who made minimal or no impact on our own resonance. So we are pretenders and inventors, often rendering grander definitions of ourselves than really exist.             As we clash more often with our counterparts, we are sometimes prone to sudden defensive outbursts. Eventually we realize that we have been diminished, and in the end succumb for the greater good of all. In our defeat we recreate ourselves and our children hopefully see a more unified parental front.             It is of course our very weaknesses that open us up to the dynamic disruptive gyrations that intercultural relationships entail. For we are the ones who are predetermined to learn those few Arabic phrases for when we should meet a pitied Palestinian exile. We are the ones who offer the graceless and toadying bow to a Japanese that we encounter at a social, when he should be the one who first reaches out his right hand in greeting since he is in our country. We are the ones who just seem to have that pre-programmed sense of guilt in general about being "a white American male."             So here we are. Why not fall in love with a domineering foreign woman? It is what we have been working our whole lives to build up to. In this sense we are the poster boys for American post-modern reinvention.About the Author: My name is Christopher Gerdes. I live in Richmond, TX, am married, and have two daughters ages 6 and 8. I am a college history instructor and enjoy teaching and writing immensely.

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American men who settle into intercultural relationships are of a certain type. Some distinct undercurrent exists in our personalities. In a sense we are of stripped identity. Or maybe a more accurate description is that we have never been fully clothed to begin with.

We have generally few strong values and are prone to succumb to other more well defined individuals, namely of strong willed captivating women. It is as if we are trying to fill our lives. We are often survivors of parents with weak personalities, who made minimal or no impact on our own resonance. So we are pretenders and inventors, often rendering grander definitions of ourselves than really exist.

As we clash more often with our counterparts, we are sometimes prone to sudden defensive outbursts. Eventually we realize that we have been diminished, and in the end succumb for the greater good of all. In our defeat we recreate ourselves and our children hopefully see a more unified parental front.

It is of course our very weaknesses that open us up to the dynamic disruptive gyrations that intercultural relationships entail. For we are the ones who are predetermined to learn those few Arabic phrases for when we should meet a pitied Palestinian exile. We are the ones who offer the graceless and toadying bow to a Japanese that we encounter at a social, when he should be the one who first reaches out his right hand in greeting since he is in our country. We are the ones who just seem to have that pre-programmed sense of guilt in general about being "a white American male."

So here we are. Why not fall in love with a domineering foreign woman? It is what we have been working our whole lives to build up to. In this sense we are the poster boys for American post-modern reinvention.

My name is Christopher Gerdes. I live in Richmond, TX, am married, and have two daughters ages 6 and 8. I am a college history instructor and enjoy teaching and writing immensely. For more of my writings please see the following link: societyasfilteredthroughmyeyes.blogspot.com

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1. Mary Abbot (17:01, 29.07.2009)

Um. Yikes. You are scary. Interesting in the beginning how you say "American" men when you are only referring to White American men, as if no other races (Japanese American, Black American, Hispanic American, etc, etc) exists in America. This is a sad article and I find it terrifying that you are a history teacher passing your views on to young minds.

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