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The Best Anger Management Tips For Controlling Your Temper
Author: Jim Johnson  | Posted: 25-05-2006 | Comments: 0 | Views: 188 | Rating: (58)  (?) 
For those that face anger management, tips can be a good way to begin to learn how to handle this condition. Education is the ultimate key when it comes to learning how to handle all that life throws at you. Often, a person that is facing anger problems is not doing so because they want to be angry. Most of the time, the brain and the physiological effects of the world around them have led them to this point. Nevertheless, if this is you or someone you love, these anger management tips can be and ideal way to start on treatment.
1. Removal of the problem. Sometimes, it is appropriate for the problem to be removed from the individual to reduce the instances of anger. In this anger management tip, you need to find a way to remove the thing that is causing the anger from your life. That may mean finding a new job or finding a new way to live your life. Sometimes, this drastic change is one of the best things for you to do.
2. Another top for anger management is to avoid the problem. If you can not remove it altogether from your life, then try to avoid it as much as possible. If you can not leave your job but you are continuously angered by an employee there, try to move from them. Avoid them as much as possible. This can help you to control your anger on this level.
3. Anger management tips can sometimes just not be enough. Often, the most successful way to handle your anger is to seek out effective anger management counseling. If you feel that you can not afford to do this, realize that some employers offer anger management counseling. This is the perfect place for you to seek out the help you need.
The best possible tips for you to take are for you to seek out the counseling that is necessary for help in managing anger. The bottom line here is that you really can not very often avoid or get rid of the element that is causing you anger. Most of the time, this is only the surface anger that is playing out. The fact is that often it is necessary to handle the problems that are underlying and truly causing the anger to happen.
The best possible anger management tip out there is to seek out the help of anger management counseling through your job, through your community or through your doctor. Once you can find a way to control what is happening, you can make life quite a bit less stressful for yourself. No one should have to live with this type of anger all the time, yet very few can change it themselves. Therefore anger management tips are the first step to change for the better.
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I can't even go swimming or listen to my favorite songs on my mp3 player without being considered WRONG or a danger to society. I mean, how can listening to music be a danger to myself? How can going swimming or taking a hike/walk be a danger to myself & others? People always think it's THEIR place to punish me from doing what makes me happy, or make me punish myself.
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It's not fair how my twin sister gets treated better than me because she strives for popularity, & I'm considered the antisocial geek. & they say I'm jealous. I have no need to be jealous of wrongful favoritism.
We weren't supposed to have any contact with our birth family until after we turned 18 because shortly after birth, my birth mom tried to smother me & kill me because she said she was jealous of how my grandma chose me as the favorite because I was a pleasantly plump baby. We were newborns/infants. & my twin had to stay in an incubator for a long time. My mom is a schizophrenic who uses street drugs & overdoses on steroids. Her mind is so messed up. & people think that just because my mom is schizophrenic, that makes me crazy, too. I don't suffer schizophrenia.
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Many people tell me I dwell on the negative & the past & complain too much. I know I seem child-like, but I didn't get to live a normal childhood. I was always punished from social functions & social activities. Never get to watch TV or talk on the phone. Never got to go to the mall with friends. The foster family always felt like I needed to be chaperoned. & not because I'm gonna do anything bad. They just want to have a reason to get me punished again.
Like I remember this one time when my foster sister took us swimming, & I was in 7th grade. A kid offered to let me play with his swim toy. I think it was those floaties. & my foster sister punished me the ENTIRE evening! & every time people from school would see me, & tell me hi, my foster family would punish ME for saying hi back. & then when we would go to school the next day, that kid no longer had respect for me & was no longer my friend.
I can't have friends. I don't want friends. Every new friend I get tries to boss me around & control me, telling me what I should & shouldn't buy, when we go grocery shopping. & they yell @ me & publicly humiliate me in WalMart, & they're not looking out for my best interest, & neither do they care. They just want to have somebody to CONTROL! & then when I see them @ school (college campus) then next day, they turn their nose up @ me. & then I feel like, "Well, I'll be DAMN! If that was the case, I could've bought that 10-lb. bag of sugar that was on sale for $2.", for example.
& the only friend I have, she's the ONLY one who doesn't treat me like this. I ain't gon' lie. She USED TO at first, but then as she got to know me, she started to have more respect for me. The guys, who sexually want her, try to to make up lies against me, & they want her to delete me out of her life so they can have her all to themselves. & they think we're sleeping together since we hang out so much. Well, I'm hetero, & she's BI. I have no desire for another female. I want to get married & have kids. But that looks unlikely to happen. =(
People don't care about me. Not even my family. It's like, I'm supposed to be single, helpless, & child-like for the rest of my life. I hate being 24 & getting yelled @ by a 14-yr. old BOY. I hate that the foster family allowed the 12-yr. old BOYS to send me to my bedroom as time-out. & those boys got a KICK out of that, too. People say " I " have poor social skills. People scream AHHH & run when they see me, they try to avoid me, they treat me like I'm a pest. & other people say that people don't treat me like this for no reason, & they think that I MUST'VE provoked them to abuse me. So, the fact that I EXIST is provoking you? I'm 24, & a 13-yr. old tells me not to buy McDonald's, & I ignore HIM & do it anyway. & he aims for knocking ALL my teeth out. He doesn't succeed, but he busts my lip. The cops get called, & the foster mom lie & say that I tripped over a rock & fell on concrete or something. Or they say I choked myself, when the foster brother put his knee in my throat & tried to murder me over an argument over something he had nothing to do with. Even the MEN in the family 6'7" tall & try to hurt & try to kill little bitty me, 5'2". & they punch me & pound on me with ALL their strength & might. Last time this happened was like 2 yrs. ago, but it's still bothersome to me. People think I'm an attention-seeking drama queen, when I'm not. When I get sick, they lie & say it's all in my head. It's not. Sometimes it's the side effect of the psych meds. Sometimes it's Irritable Bowel Syndrome pains.
People don't want me to be an adult. 1 time, I tried to take my older brother in because he's a lot like me, but he needs people to take care of him because he's more mentally disabled than I am. But we're alike in many ways. The "foster" sister overheard my conversation & ran & told my foster mom, & the foster mom tried to STOP me from trying to take care of my brother. I'm totally different than my twin sister. & this brother surprisingly gets more respect than me, but we still get treated the same way sometimes. & the foster sister's husband tried to butt in. & he told me that I put myself in the position to DESERVE to be abused for dealing with my family because I keep putting my hand in the fire by dealing with them. Well, dealing with HIM-the foster brother-in-law, I guess I'm putting my hand back in the fire. Lots of my situations I could not escape from because of lack of money & access to available resources.
In conclusion, I just want to know if this is normal. I know it's not, but what do YOU think? How would you handle dealing with this? How would you feel to have to question the morality of everything you do, think, or say? Would it drive you INSANE to question to yourself if what you're thinking, saying, or doing is rational, logical, making sense, or not.
Many people tell me that they couldn't deal with the $hit I had to take off of people for so many yrs. They said they would've committed suicide LONG time ago! Many people think I'm weak because I obsess over this & can't get this out of my head. But then, they say I'm very strong for still @ least TRYING to pursue my career & not giving up.
Sorry so long, & thanks for reading.
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