The author is a successful marketing executive in a large consumer good company and a mother of two boys. She has had a rough ride in the past two years and has successfully saved her family from the brink of disaster by working on her parenting style. She has recently built a website www.newparentingstyle.com, which touches upon some effective parenting tips that have helped her in her success.
Teenage rebellion: one of the certainties about parenting adolescents. The stage when children start to become adults is one where their whole frame of reference about the world changes. There are new rules for them to follow, new sources of power and influence in their lives, and they have to learn their place in the world. A vital part of successful teenage parenting is helping your child learn their boundaries.
One thing that should happen when parenting adolescents is that you should question your initial reactions to what your teen does. If your daughter dyes her hair blue or your son starts wearing make up, you may want to confront them, but remember that they aren’t hurting anyone. They will stop once they feel foolish, or fashion changes. Besides, does it really matter what your teenager looks like on the outside if they are a good person inside? This is a vital thing to remember with teenage parenting.
The key tactic to be aware of when parenting adolescents, once you have realized that your teen’s actions aren’t harming anyone, is to avoid confrontation. Your teen will probably argue back, making things worse for all of you, and testing how far they can push. Try and remain calm and patient in all aspects of teenage parenting. Don’t have a discussion about a particular behavior, try and have a general discussion, and ask them questions that will lead them to think things through for themselves.
Forgive your teenager. That is often a hard thing to do when parenting adolescents, but remember they are just learning. Be fair, but firm. If they do or say something that you wouldn’t find acceptable from an adult, tell them. They may not know that their behaviour is unacceptable. Give them a chance to apologize and modify their behaviour before taking action. This is a key thing to remember with teenage parenting. If they do it again, then either ignore if possible, or take appropriate action if it affects other people in a negative way.
Teenage parenting can be stressful but can also be so much fun. You have a new adult in your life who can do things your children couldn’t. They are bound to test the boundaries and see what they can and can’t do, and that is something that almost everyone parenting adolescents needs to cope with. If you are seriously worried about your teen’s behaviour though, and there are indications that they could be harming themselves or others, then please do not be worried about seeking professional help.
For more tips on parenting refer to my free e-book “New Parenting Style” on http://www.newparentingstyle.com/index.html.
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