"Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get-only with what you are expecting to give-which is everything." - Anonymous
While you may have heard that the number one problem in marriages is the lack of communication. I believe that this is only a symptom of a deeper relational problem - Selfishness.
Selfishness is simply "seeking one's own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others."
And all of us struggles with selfishness. You want what you want when you want it. Think about it. You don't have to teach a young child how to say "gimme, gimme" when they see something like a toy they want that someone else has. It almost seem as if it something you are born with.
And as you get older that just does not change even following you into your relationships and eventually marriage.
With the result being that you rarely focusing on enriching others which is why one in five marriages end in divorce.
And there is no area of a relationship where this selfishness is more evident than finances. In fact a women would make love to you but she would not share her money with you. And spouses while confessing their endless love to each other rarely take about it. And while your hearts beat as one your money never joins the chorus.
Leaving countless families devastated financially when one spouse dies prematurely.
It may surprise you but the one thing that is guarenteed to improve your marriage and sex life is a budget.
You will find that a good budget is not just a spending plan; it's a communication tool.
Done right, a budget can bring the two of you closer together as you identify and work towards common goals.
As well as reduce your stress and arguments about money!
And for good measure here are 10 other benefits you will get:
- A budget will tells you whether you're going in the direction you want to be headed in financially. You may have goals and dreams but if you don't set up guidelines for reaching them and you don't measure your progress, you will end up going so far in the wrong direction you can never make it back. If you are going to achieve your financial goals you need a budget.
- A budget will let you control your money instead of your money controlling you.
- A budget will help you to live within your means. As it allows you to put a wedge between your expense and income by always ensuring that your expense never rises to the level of your income. Many people don't realize they're living far beyond their means until they're neck deep in debt.
- A budget will help you meet your savings goals. By knowing your savings and investments goal your budget will allow you to pay yourself first.
- A budget will allow you to control your expense, thereby freeing up money for you to use on the things that really matter to you.
- A budget will help you to focus your family on common goals.
- A budget will help you prepare for life and the emergencies and events that go along with it, that would otherwise drain you financially.
- A budget will help you find areas where you're spending too much money so that you can refocus that money on your most important goals.
- A budget will keep you out of debt or help you get out of debt if you are.
- A budget will help you sleep better at night because you won't lie awake worrying about how you're going to pay your bills.
So what are you waiting for go try this stuff! And if you need help "Your Introduction To Budgeting" email course is a useful tool.
"Let no one seek his own, but each one the other's well-being." 1 Corinthians 10:24 (NKJV)
Copyright 2009 - Glenn S. Ferguson
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