Some cats leave no doubt they love you by wanting to be physically close. Other cats are more subtle about their feelings, and we humans are not always good at picking up the signals. This may be why dog lovers think cats are unfriendly!
1. Of course, when your cat curls up on your lap, you can be fairly sure he likes you. Even if your lap is the warmest spot around, your cat will only sit there if he likes you.
2. A cat who loves you may wrap her tail around you, rub her head or body against you or rub her ears and face on you. She's giving you her scent, claiming you as her own. Her affections are even stronger, if she arches her back while rubbing against you.
3. "Making biscuits" or kneading you with his paws may mean your cat sees you as a mother-figure. Kittens knead their mothers as they feed from them to stimulate milk flow.
4. Ever found a dead mouse or bird on the doorstep, or worse, in the house? Cats often bring "gifts" to those they love. You may be unimpressed with the nature of the gift, but to your cat, it's a treasure.
5. Chirps and trills: Cats often make these sounds when they're happy. If they chirp while rubbing against you, you can take that as a sign of approval.
6. Does your cat lick you? She's actually grooming you...something cats only do to other cats and people they love.
7. Is your cat's tail vertical when he's with you? When cats approach an unfamiliar cat or person , they keep their tail low, however, if the tail is in a vertical position, it shows familiarity and trust.
8. If your cat blinks at you, especially those slow blinks, she is telling you she loves you.
What can you do if your cat doesn't show you affection? Some cats are cooler than others of course, but you can try to warm them up.
Only cuddle your cat when he lets you. You'll get more attention when he's ready to give it. If he is nervous, talk to him gently and softly, particularly when feeding him. Don't make fast moves or loud sounds.
If you want your cat to become more relaxed on your lap, you can try encouraging her by offering a small food reward after she has (hopefully) sat on your lap for a few seconds. Each time she sits on your lap, extend the period by a few more seconds, giving her a food reward. Talk to her softly and handle her gently. She may eventually sit for a while without the rewards. If not, you may have to accept that she's not a lap cat.
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