Connection vs. Separation in Personal Growth

When we understand that we are not separate from our wants and needs, we are able to more competently and confidently create what we most deeply want.

Many of us have adopted a separatist view of our experience, when we could be better served by a holistic view. In a separatist view, everything is out of reach even to some degree what is right in our grasp. In other words, the object, by virtue of it being held, is separate from our hand. In a holistic view, nothing is out of reach because everything is connected. A shift from one view to another can be very helpful in advancing our personal growth.

It is common for people, when they are using this separatist thinking, to put whatever they want outside of themselves. I want it; therefore, it is separate from me. The sense of separation only serves to support the current predicament. An experience of connection, on the other hand, changes a lot. For example, if you wants love, then:

A.    You can either look for sources of love outside of oneself, or
B.     You can learn to be love.

If you are love, then you no longer need love in the same way that you believed you needed it before. Once you have made this shift one time, you will recognize its significance.

This works equally well with abundance. If you are abundance, then you will not have the experience of reaching and stretching towards, for example, material achievement. You will simply be abundance. You will know that you will always have what you need and then some.

Reality check: People sometimes misuse this thinking. It is like their minds play tricks on them. For example, some people might try and believe that what I just wrote means that they can have everything that they want if they just “think” about it. Other people might think that if what I said were true, they would have their every whim. And, still other people might turn what I wrote into a belief that it is their fault when they are separate from things they most desire. None of these things are what I was saying.

Within the holistic view everything is within our realm of contact. Because of this, there are many ways in which solely our intention can effect material change. While this becomes less accurate the more material or physical the subject, it still remains on many levels true.

There is still a lot to learn about the nature of our connectedness. The subtleties are something still only barely understood by top thinkers and mystics. Even so, many of the most life changing aspects of this holistic perspective can be used to help us change our lives. So, perhaps just for the purposes of experimentation or to explore what I am saying, see what it is like to contain, hold, or experience the feeling of being what it is you want. How does it change your view of your desires?