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Identity Crisis
Author: M.RAMAKRISHNA CHARY  | Posted: 20-10-2007 | Comments: 0 | Views: 94 | Rating: (62)  (?) 
IDENTITY CRISIS
Identity Crisis, a new Psychological term which means curiosity to be identified. It is very important, useful as well as dangerous. To say in a word, it is like a Penicillin or venom of snake. Even venom saves lives as medicine and also kills.
When we are among the people like in parties, meetings, any public gatherings we are curious to be identified, even feels that our specialty and existence has to be identified. Generally one or two persons are peculiar in a group, the rest are followers.
Art, skill, internal power these are the strengths of a man,but without them only with gentle behavior we cannot be identified and some times it may create problems. In families some people tries to be very gentle, his interest is to be identified as a good Samaritan. This is also an identity crisis.
Some people, though they are in good position they try for more recognition. For example some writers and novelists though they have enough recognition they publish their photos and give interviews to glamorous magazines, and focus on their property details.
A girl who has not tasted good relation with mother, father or brothers or sisters is eager to be identified. After her marriage, if she fails to be identified with her husband that may cause to a close association with another person. If any person identifies our talent or skills we blindly tries to be in the position which other person likes. This type of people say my soul is pure, mine is sensitive soul. Such people are in Identity Crisis. There is a lot of difference between to be good and trying to be good.
Famous Indian novelist R.K.Narayan's novel The Guide is the best example for Identity Crisis.
The Characters in the novel are Marco, Rosie and Raju. Marco an archaeologist who is a drunkard and womanizer, his wife is Rosie. Marco is busy with his research work on caves he neglects his wife Rosie. She longs for affectionate relation. She expects recognition. The couple comes to Malgudi where they meet Raju, a tourist guide. As Marco is busy with his work, friendship develops between Rosie and Raju. He admires Rosie's dancing. He wakes up the art of dancing in her. With in short period they fall in love. Rosie leaves husband and elopes with Raju.She reaches the highest position in dancing with Raju's moral support and encouragement. Later Rosie begins to neglect Raju.He feels that he is loosing recognition. He separates himself from Rosie and goes to a small draught effected village where he fasts as a sage for the sake of rain and dies at last.
In the novel all the characters Marco, Rosie and Raju longs for identity as wife, lover and husband. When they fail to get what they want they separated. That is Identity Crisis. The novel reveals how a human being makes relationships to get recognition and how he neglects after he meets needs.
Every relation is great till the relation gives happyness. When the level of happiness changes the relation fails. It is a hard fact. So one has to go ahead without giving any importance to unnecessary sentiments, without hurting others and without being hurt, making needed relations and decreasing unnecessary relations. This is the way towards happy living.
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 About the Author:M.Ramakrishna Chary
M.A.,M.Phil.,PGCTE(Post Graduate Certificate in Teaching English)
Asst.Prof.of English in Engineering College.
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