To impress some one we like, we lie. Because truth may at times make us feel awkward. To make other persons feel comfortable, we lie, otherwise our date may feel embarrassed. Lying, speaking truth and keeping quiet are three positions that we can take while dating. Does lying help? Many of us give some information about ourselves that is wrong. If you are a man, you may mention a higher income figure and women may fudge about their age. Lying hurts in the long term. Let us examine more.
Why do we date? Is it only for fun for a day to find out if we can find someone to partner with us for a long time? If we are looking for fun for a day, we should make this clear to our date and let them not expect anything else. Otherwise it can hurt a human being. If we are looking for a long-term relationship, every lie will ultimately get exposed. That will hurt us even more.
We might be feeling very uncomfortable during a date. Is it better to say that you are enjoying yourself or to diplomatically say about the real feelings? By lying here, we are giving wrong expectations to the other person. Why does that? One can diplomatically say - I am not feeling very comfortable. Can we cut short today?
Some people are liars by habit. They rarely speak the truth and lie as a matter of habit. Such people give wrong ideas to their date and hurt him or her. That is not a good way of doing things. One may not be very truthful, if something embarrassing comes up. But one can surely change the subject or keep quiet. Why lie?
Lying hurts not only during dating, but also in every situation in life. A liar always feels threatened that the truth will one day get exposed. Isn't it better to keep quiet or speak truth?
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Does lying cause cancer
By: finman1959@aol.com | 20-07-2008
do you think lying could cause cancer ?
Is it ok to drug test a boyfriend?
By: sweetcheekzz1387 | 22-05-2008
My boyfriend of 3 years and I currently live together. He however has a problem with lying. We had come to an agreement that he would stop smoking pot to better himself and once again he has lied and done it. I told him to leave and he begged and begged and said to give him one more chance. I am giving him one more chance and hes going away this weekend with his unsupportive friends who dont want him to quit. I am making him take a drug test when he gets home to see if he is still doing it, if so he gets kicked out. Is that wrong of me as a girlfriend to make him take it?
What should I think about the things I have found out about my BF?
By: anne243 | 23-04-2008
I dont know how to feel about mt relationship. I have been with a guy for about 1 year now. He always tells me how much he loves me and talks about our futuer a lot. I love this about him but I have found out some things that make me think he might not feel for me the way he tells me he does. when we first started dating I found an email of his to a different girl that was a lie. it was as if he was telling her the things he needed to to keep her in contact with him. then there was some photos that I found. lots of photos of other girls, naked pic of him self that he had sent to other girls, and I even saw some pics (naked in the tub) of the girl that he told me was his best friends wife! and then there was the ex girl friend who he called even tho he knew that I would not like it. all of the things I said ( with the exception of the ex thing) happen before I knew him. but I feel like those are all things that tell me about his personality. I admit that I looked at his photos with out him knowing. but that was only after I found some of this sfutt out just by puting things away or trying to go on line to look at my mail. so know I don't know how to feel. should I say the past is the past? should I tell him I have seen the pic and hear some lame excuse? should this be a red flag for me?
Lying girlfriend
By: soxfan19187 | 17-04-2008
If your girlfriend lied over and over about her past , and talking to an ex , and you live together what would you do ?
Lying about lying
By: Bump | 17-03-2008
I am tired of getting headlines and links that say one thing like this..."How to Know if They're Lying This Easy Tell Is a Dead Giveaway"... And then clicking on the link and there isn't anything at all about lying detection just about how to mingle! Why is this?
Marion Jones was sentenced today to six months in ...
By: muscleguy | 11-01-2008
Marion Jones was sentenced today to six months in prison for lying about using steroids and a check-fraud scam, despite her plea that she not be separated from her two young children for any amount of time.She won three gold and two bronze medals at the 2000 Sydney Olympics while on performance-enhancing drugs. She also admitted lying about her knowledge of the involvement of Tim Montgomery, the father of her older son Monty, in a scheme to cash millions of dollars worth of stolen or forged checks. Montgomery and several others have been convicted in that scam. They include Jones' former coach, Olympic champion Steve Riddick, who is to be sentenced later today.Is this justice? Do you think she got special treatment?
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