Ending Your Fear in Having Another Relationship

Suppose you overhear a group of women talking about their relationships. They shared how their painful relationships drained them emotionally in the end. It seems that they can't wait to get their lives back on track after the painful breakups. Listening to them, you'd think that falling in love again seems impossible because of the pain.

Are you on the same boat? Maybe you've just found enough strength to end your relationship and finally stopped thinking about him. You're now single again and enjoying your life to the fullest. But what if a new man comes along, will he hurt you the same way your ex did?

You seem to have a great life, a successful career and amazing people around you, but deep down you really don't want to be alone. You'd like to be someone for keeps - someone who won't just come and go. He'd be somebody who'll end your fear in having another relationship.

To help you find someone like this, here are some tips:

TIP #1: Let The Past Go and Enjoy the Moment.

Imagine meeting someone new. He asks for your number and calls you after two days. You excitedly prepare for the date but a lot of thoughts enter your mind. You're worried that he won't like you or find you attractive. What if he's the same kind of loser that you've been dating?

Before you entertain those thoughts further, stop! Going back to the past won't help. Your date will just feel your negativity and think that you're not present and in the moment. You'll end up doing and saying the same things that led to fights and disconnection in the past.

TIP #2: Differentiate "Dating" and "In A Relationship"

One of the worst dating mistakes a woman does is jumping into conclusions. You may think that after a few dates, you're officially an item, but he may just be enjoying your company at this point. Don't act as if you're in a relationship and start thinking about exclusivity. When you call or send him text messages and he doesn't reply immediately, do you bug him and demand an explanation? When you do these things, you'll end up confusing him. He'll be wondering why he's encountering "girlfriend" issues with someone he's just met.

TIP #3: Live Life in a Way That Attracts Him.

Meeting and attracting Mr. Right is not as hard as you think it is. Just be somebody who's interesting and fun to be with, and he'll see you as attractive and interesting. Remember that a woman who can't seem to survive on her own is a turn-off for men. Dependent women tend to be needy and clingy, and these certainly aren't the types the better men are on the lookout for.

Learn from your past mistakes and don't do them again. Loosen up and enjoy each day spent with him and he'll see you as somebody who's worth keeping. Don't dwell on the bitter past and work on moving towards a sweeter future.