Finding Fulfilling Relationships

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What's the use of being in a relationship when you don't find satisfaction and fulfillment in it? The fire of the romance is always strong in the beginning, but as time goes by, that roaring fire turns into ashes. The sad reality is that a lot of women go through the motions of having a relationship but never finding fulfillment in the end.

If you think that you belong to the statistics, then there could only be two reasons - you're not doing the right thing and that pushes him away, or he's unavailable emotionally. Worse, it could be both.

Are you even aware that you could be doing something wrong? Smart women commit these mistakes without really knowing that they are.

Giving him everything he wants is one mistake that should be avoided. If he says that he wants to see you and you automatically say yes, or if he wants to go to bed with you in the early stages of the relationship and you say yes, then you are telling him that you are easy and not worth pursuing.

Women think that giving in all time will make him stay. On the contrary - he would think that you are predictable and boring. When you get boring and bland, he would look someplace else to find that spice that he wants in the relationship. Imagine watching the same scene in your favorite movie over and over again. You'll eventually get tired and want to watch something else, even if it is your favorite movie, right?

The other reason is his emotional unavailability. Men who are like this are interested in casual dating and playing the game, but aren't interested in going for a longer and more stable relationship. Emotionally unavailable men head for the nearest exit when the talk about commitment and marriage comes.

So if you want to find a fulfilling relationship, don't be the easy-to-get woman and steer clear from men who are emotionally unavailable. Could there be a possibility of turning an emotionally unavailable man to someone who is? It's easy when you know how.

The first answer lies in you. Identify the things that you do that push him farther away. Do you complain too much and nag him to submission? Or do you try to convince him to love you, or that he's better off with you? If you are, STOP. You can't change your boyfriend directly, and telling him to change will just hasten the process of him leaving you.

Instead, like who you are and be sure of yourself. Women tend to nag when they feel insecure or unsure of themselves. The verbal manifestation of insecurities is nagging. Nobody is perfect, and your boyfriend knows you aren't, so accept your insecurities and work on improving your weak points. Who wouldn't fall in love with someone who can honestly admit their shortcomings and be brave enough to try to change them?

Lastly, play hard to get. Men are attracted to smart, level-headed and interesting women. He is drawn to a woman who can tickle him pink and would keep them on their toes because of her unpredictability. Arouse his curiosity of what you can offer and he keep him guessing every time. He will love you more and definitely want to stay in a relationship with you.

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