How Do I Get My Ex to Fall Back in Love With Me? - 5 Tips

Missing your ex? Whether you two were married or just dating, your love was something special. Now, it is over. If you have found yourself thinking about your ex and cannot seem to get that person off of your mind since your breakup, it might be time to try to rekindle the spark.

Here are 5 tips to get your ex to fall back in love with you.

Tip #1: Make Yourself Available: If you are currently dating someone else, you need to end that relationship - even if it is just a casual thing. Even if you never let your ex know you are dating, it will come across in the energy around you. Often, we date new people after a breakup to fill in the void of loneliness that accompany a breakup. Other times, we just may be feeling a bit uncomfortable spending Friday night alone. However, if you are serious about getting your ex to fall back in love with you, clearing your dating schedule should be your first priority. Come clean and focus on what you really want: to get your ex back.

Tip #2: Be Lovable: You are inherently a person with lovable traits: after all, those are what made your ex fall in love with you in the first place. However, this is a good time to really take a look at yourself: are you friendly, but a bit arrogant? Are you helpful but also kind of a know-it-all? We all have character traits that are not entirely appealing. Have a heart-to-heart with a friend or make an appointment with a counselor and find out 1 or 2 traits you need to work on. Make yourself as lovable as possible as a way of preparing to reunite with your past love.

Tip #3: Be Interesting: We all want to date someone who is involved in something new and exciting. If you find that your life is in a bit of a rut, try taking up a new hobby, sport, or other interest. Become knowledgeable about some topic. Or, join an organization within which you can start to build an associate network. Being a bit unpredictable is attractive, especially to your ex who things they know you so well.

Tip #4: Be Interested: When you start speaking or writing to your ex again, make sure to bring the conversation around frequently to what their lives are now about. Remember not to focus too much on yourself or your burning desire to get back together. And, do not assume you know what is going on with them - some time has gone by and there are likely changes in their life. Everyone likes to be the center of attention: make your ex feel that it is all about them, and you will be one big step closer to success.

Tip #5: Start the Dialogue: Once you have had a casual conversation or two with your ex, it is time to start a dialogue about exploring your relationship again. If your ex is currently in another relationship, this complicates things, but it is not necessarily the end of the road. What matters is not whom your ex is dating but rather what is going on in their heart. Be honest with your feelings but avoid getting overly emotional. Let your ex know how you really feel.

Getting your ex to fall back in love with you is not something you can control, since the human heart is free to do as it wishes. However, there are techniques - including those shared above - that can tip the scales strongly in your favor in terms of having your ex back in your life again very soon.