How To Approach Women At The Gym And Flirt

The guys at my gym are always asking me how I managed to nail "Anna Kournikova."

No, I didn't actually sleep with that unbelievably hot Russian tennis player who is also a worldwide sex symbol. But there was a chick who worked out at my gym, who looked like her -- so much so that we all referred to her (behind her back) by that nickname.

And all the guys at the gym desperately wanted her. This girl was incredibly beautiful, and she was Russian, too (with a super-sexy accent). She would walk into the gym wearing tiny spandex shorts that revealed a world-class ass, and a skin-tight top that showed off breasts that were so incredibly perfect that we all assumed she had implants.

(As found out later, "Anna" was all natural...)

Anyway, allow me to rewind, explain how it went down, and give you some tips on on how to approach women at the gym...

The average guy doesn't have any idea how to approach women at the gym -- and so he doesn't even make an effort. They think it would be strange, or awkward, to approach a woman at the gym while she's in the middle of a workout, or cooling down and getting ready to leave. They assume she's in her own "zone," focused on her workout, and not in the mood to have some random guy walk up and start trying to convese with her.

The ironic thing is that the majority of the dudes in the gym are there because they want to make themselves more nice-looking to girls! They're getting in shape and building up their muscles because they want to catch the attention of women.

And yet, when they're actually IN the gym, they think the women there are somehow "off bounds."

Gyms are really an excellent environment to approach women, for quite a lot of reasons. One reason is that when we exercise, our brains release endorphins -- the "pleasure" chemical. Women who are enjoying a good workout are literally buzzing as their brains are filled with endorphins. This makes them the opposite of a girl in a bar who is "on guard" and acting defensive and suspicious when guys try to come close to her.

Now, if there's a woman at your gym that you want to approach, wait until she's deep into her exercise session. Don't attempt to approach her when she first arrives, or when she gets on the Stairmaster five minutes after showing up.

Let her work up a sweat. Allow her brain start firing off those endorphins! This way, she'll be in a pleasurable mental state when you approach and start a friendly conversation.

And if she's been exercising hard and could use a break, she'll welcome the opportunity to take a break and talk to you. (But only if you approach and start the conversation the right way.)

So here's the gym approach that I used with Anna (as she was doing her stretches after a hard workout, causing every guy in the gym to stop and stare):

"Hey, let me ask you something real quick. You look like you keep in good shape, and my friend Mandy just had a baby -- I'm the baby's godfather, and he is soooo adorable -- and anyway, Jennifer really wants to get back in shape and lose the weight she gained from her pregnancy. Do you know any trainers you can recommend? Or maybe some exercise classes?"

This type of gym approach is effective for a few reasons. First, I did not ask her for permission. I didn't say, "Pardon me, can I ask you a question?" Don't ever do that. ouNever give a girl a chance to say no to you. Jump right into it.

The next thing I did was throw in a quick mention of my friend's baby. That always pushes some emotional buttons and puts a smile on the girl's face.

Third, I asked a specific QUESTION that is effortless for her to respond to. She's a sexy, in-shape girl who works out a lot. Naturally, she wants to share her knowledge on this. So she starts sharing her knowledge and telling me the best way to get my friend Jennifer back in good shape...

From that point, now that I'm engaged in conversation with her, I will use the right conversation tactics to transition to other cool subjects that help me form a connection with her.

We spent the next 20 minutes chatting and flirting, then I used a "ninja" move to score her phone number and propose a place for us to meet on Sunday night, and the rest is history.

The lesson of this story? Learning how to approach women at the gym is actually very easy, when you use the correct methods.