How to Get a Lover Back - The Most Important Steps to Take

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So you've split up. It's over. And now you are hurt and confused. It's happened to all of us. I've been there. The absolutely vital thing to do is remain calm. Now, I know it's easy for me to say, especially as you are feeling so emotional right now. The only thing I would ask you to do is to stop and take a deep breath or two and listen to me when I tell you that the most important step is to do nothing

You read that correctly. Not a thing. Don't pick up your phone or go visit them. Sit on your hands if necessary but emails and texts are also off the list. Right now is the situation at its most dangerous point and it is vital you do this right from the beginning. The absolute worst thing you could do is start proclaiming your undying devotion or start begging your lover to take you back. For more on that CLICK HERE.


Which leads me to the 2nd step which is to put yourself first. When a relationship breaks down it's only natural to focus completely on your ex. You think about them, dream about them. You wonder what they are doing. When all of that energy could be better used looking after yourself.

Listen to me when I tell you that it is very important you take care of your needs now. The anguish can even be felt physically. I know I've felt it - a real ache in my heart. If another part of you was hurting that bad you'd take care of it, wouldn't you? This is just the same as any other wound. You must tend to it with love.

Not love for your ex-partner but love for yourself at this painful time. And the number one way that you can love yourself is to put yourself first. Ask yourself honestly how you feel about the break up. Are you confused? Hurt? Even angry? You want to get back with your lover so I will take it that you still care about them but it's not their feelings that come first.

In the second instalment of this article I intend to move you on to the next steps you need to take to get a lover back. Until then, I'd like you to acknowledge your feelings. Maybe even write them down. You must not, however, share them with your ex-lover. If you decide to write them down, it is vital not to send them to your ex-partner. Just save them for yourself. I will tell you why in Part 2 and I'll also outline the absolute, killer strategy that has been used successfully time and again to get a lover back. Until then, take care of yourself and if you want more good, free advice or simply to be around someone who understands, CLICK HERE.

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