How To Get Your Ex Back - An Effective 5 Step Outline

A lot of people do "random things" when their boyfriend or girlfriend break up with them. Then there's always people giving vague advice that may leave you confused and angry. To get your ex back, realize that it will take time so don't expect it to be a "quick fix." I know this is long but follow these simple pointers and hopefully you'll be on your way to getting your ex back.

Step 1 - Stop Contacting Them

Why do you think your girlfriend or boyfriend broke up with you? I can tell you that one of the main reasons was because you might have been too clingy to them. Examples would have been you called them most of the time rather than them calling you. When they were hanging around their friends, did you ever want them to hang out with you instead? Perhaps you wanted their attention a little "too much" and they decided to cut the chord which caused you to be in your position right now. If you're in a break up right now, whatever you do, don't call them or text message them, even if you're obsessed. Not only can this be annoying, but will work against you. It's okay, breathe... give them some space right now.

Step 2 - Deal with "Your" Problems First

Stop sorrowing and stop thinking about your ex! Whenever you find yourself at any moment thinking about your ex, immediately stop yourself and think of something else. Make this a habit it or pinch yourself if you need to. In order to stop thinking about your ex, try to occupy your thoughts with something - anything! You can easily do this by consistently doing activities that cause your mind and body to focus on something else like jogging at the park, talking to people, going to the movies with friends, go rock climbing, work out at a gym, join a discussion club, go to a party, go to a club, or draw a picture!

Step 3 - Make Sure Your 100% Recovered

Keep doing those activities! At first it will be hard, but expect this just like any type of obstacle that you've had to go through in life. After the second day, third, forth and fifth day, doing activities and other things will be a lot easier. If you keep at it, have a positive attitude, and constantly talk to people (not about your ex), it's very possible that within two weeks to a month, you'll be fully recovered from any emotional depression that was caused by your breakup. Also, stay away from music that has lyrics about any type of love, sex, or breakup. Techno may be a good choice because is has no lyrics, and is very upbeat!


Step 4 - Meet Them

Make sure that you've allowed the proper time to pass before you continue with this step. Proper time could be two weeks to two months to half a year. It doesn't matter... what matters is your attitude! You need to be confidently comfortable with yourself and life, and even if you've gotten this far, you're already golden. Within about month of not calling your ex, they will most likely call you to see how you're doing because they will be curious, and perhaps want to meet you. If not, contact them, after you feel like your fully recovered, and ask them that if they wanted to get something just as friends. . You should ask them in a mature way where you're just saying, "Hey do you want to hang out sometime?" With this positive attitude, they'll most likely agree and say, "Sure."

Step 5 - Treat Them Friend and Only a Friend

When you guys get together, do not mention anything about the breakup. That's the past! If they happen to bring it up, just say that it was for the best. Their breaking up with you wasn't that big of a deal. If you show any signs of weakness, your ex will think that you still have feelings for them, which will cause awkwardness. Talk about new things as if you were on a date with them - be playful, flirty, joke around, and have fun! Make fun of yourself even! They'll start to wonder why their presence isn't making you head over heels for them, and even better, they'll start finding you to be that attraction person that they first dated. If they start sending signals of attraction (an obvious one would be talking about your guys' relationship memories - i.e. "Hey, remember when we did this?"), then you'll know that they were thinking about you and still have feelings for you. Whatever happens, let me repeat this again, whatever happens, you should be the one to choose if you want to take them back or move on with your current life. Hope this helps and good luck!