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Facing a cheating spouse is without a doubt one of the most emotionally crippling events to deal with. You have had friends go through a break up and divorce over infidelity, and now you suspect your spouse is cheating on you. You two do not seem as close as you once were. A friend might point to cheating as a reason for the sudden distance, but you are unsure. Before a full-blown attack on your significant other, I suggest you look for these signs of a cheating spouse first.
Many times a spouse that is cheating will give off subtle signs that even they do not notice.
- For one, they probably will be more distracted than normal. Their thoughts are elsewhere as they daydream about their new flame.
- You may notice slight changes in what they are wearing or how they are presenting themselves. Without really thinking about it, they could "sharpen up" for their next encounter with this secret lover. If they have not changed their routine for years, you will be first to notice.
- Cheating on you will probably heighten there guilty conscious. You will notice they question you. General conversation starters such as, "How was your day" might get a response that questions why you want to know. They might want to qualify things more as well, giving reasoning for what or why they are doing something. For example, if they are going out, they may provide justification for their actions.
A more obvious sign of a cheating spouse could be the extra time they are spending away from home: late nights at work, and trips out of town on business are two common reasons. They may very well need to spend more time at work and there may be more trips out of town for business so don't starting accusing right away. They would surely appreciate a visit from you with a late snack at work, even an offer to go along on the business trip would be a great chance for you spend time with them. However, if the excuses start flying out of their mouths about "why not", you might want to dig deeper.
One last indicator of a cheating partner is the lack of intimacy. You would have to be blind and numb not to notice a change in the intimacy you two have for each other. If they are getting a good amount of attention from their new lover, the last thing they might want to be is close with you. Same goes for sex. There is going to be an excitement level with this new relationship that probably will not exist between you two - so they will come up with excuses of being too tired or not in the mood. If you are not able to discern any other issues they are dealing with that could cause a lack of intimacy, keep a close eye, they are probably getting it somewhere else.
You do not want to be broadsided by infidelity because you lacked the knowledge needed to identify a cheating spouse. Many more signs of a cheating spouse, what to do next and how to deal with all the emotions is available at my site: http://beatingcheating.blogspot.com/.
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