Is it Really Worth Breakin Up?

I had another pop culture moment that reminded me why couples get side tracked in their relationships.

That is of course aside from the usual stressors of everyday life (work kids family household issues and what not).

Well what pop culture references am I talking about you ask? Well glad you asked, my husband was sitting on the couch flipping channels (surprised right yea me too).

Anyway he stopped on some cable channel(he has them all) and the movie The Breakup was on.

Did you ever see it?

It’s the Jennifer Aniston Vince Vaughn movie where they play a live together couple in Chicago who have a huge fight which develops into the death knell of their relationship.

Hence the title The Breakup.

Well their fight was extremely well written funny yet sad with both sides attacking and trying to WIN the argument and in the process causing them to LOSE the relationship.

At the outset of the argument Jen wants him to help clean up after a party and he just wants to relax (lay on the couch and play video games) He had already angered her when he forgot her instructions to get a dozen lemons (he brought home 3 instead) prior to the dinner.

You know typical man not listening and not knowing how important it was to her thing. Anyways she asks (berates) him into getting up to help do the dishes when she then says forget it.

Now he could not understand how she was that mad at him just because he didn’t feel like helping right then with the dishes and besides he said he would do it finally. She ultimately tells him that she wanted him to want to help do the dishes. He of course says why would I want to do dishes why would anyone want to do dishes?

He also says he wished that he got not just the 12 lemons she had asked for but rather got a whole bag of lemons for each of her guests and throws in the standard I worked all day to try to get us enough money so you don’t have to work line. In analyzing their rather typical couples fight its easy to spot the common pitfalls.

Typically men side with men woman with woman on these issues. In the movie they let this fight kill the relationship as both sides refuse to get past the fight. Based on this rather common fight depicted in the movie Who was right?

Does it matter who was right? How do you get past a fight where both people say mean hurtful things? How do you and him avoid those mean hateful type fights in the future? Should he really want to help with the dishes?

Does he deserve or need or require some time relaxing watching tv or playing video games etc… and if so should you leave him alone and if so for how long? What is the best way to get back that loving relationship you used to have?