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Everything that has a beginning must definitely have an end. When it comes to love, the grave puts a period to a love shared and cherished for a long time. But these is not the case nowadays. Love has become like a passing wind, temporary. Is it true that love come and go? A strong and powerful attraction which is perceived to be love turns out to be the complete opposite. It is a misconception from the word go. This strong attraction is not love but lust. Once the desires of the loin are met, it marks the beginning of the end. Their is nothing to look forward to. It was just the heat of the moment. The passion is spent. The two souls part ways immediately. There is no reason whatsoever why they should stick together any longer. They shared nothing in common except lust. The moment it is fulfilled they go their separate ways. It was a marriage of convenience.
Incompatibility between couples is what creates a state of love come and go. The natural chemistry that brings cohesion and compatibility is lacking in this case. The couples are so different with diverse views, opinions, visions and ideologies that cannot be harmonized. They become like two people from different worlds, they are worlds apart. What was thought to be a minor hindrance that would solve itself within a short time span instead entrenches itself more. The differences between the couple become more evident and conspicuous by the day. Everyone is different in a unique way but the difference should not be an obstacle when it comes to dating and love. Love knows how to naturally deal with such problems. It accommodates them and makes them disappear. Love looks at the bigger picture.
Does love come and go? Infidelity in a relationship is a good recipe for this. It is lack of commitment by one partner. It kills the relationship with no alternative but to make the union a short lived affair. One principal in the relationship feels the other partner has betrayed the course and cannot bear the thought of staying with a traitor. The aggrieved partner cannot take cheating lying down. What lacks in the union that makes one partner to solicit it from another person? If concrete answers are not forthcoming, then the love which had come loaded with so many good things goes up in smoke. One partner feels his or her usefulness is no longer paramount. The usefulness that used to be there has now been outlived.
Irresponsibility by one partner in a relationship kills any hopes for the relationship to overcome its challenges. Alcoholism and a failure to take responsibility of affair affecting the family give justification to the love come and go scenario. These mostly affects men who turn alcoholic and become married to the bottle for better or for worse. They turn a blind eye when it comes to catering for the welfare of the wife and children. The man runs away from responsibilities. The wife sees no future in an alcoholic husband. She starts searching for a person who can give her a feeling of security. A man who does not hide and shy away from responsibilities and commitments.
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