Should I Stay Or Should I Go: The Price Of Love

In their more than 50 years together as husband and wife, Patricia's husband cheater on her frequently but Patricia always forgave him. She admits that she turned a blind eye all these years just to save the relationship, and mostly because of her husband's generosity.

But the time finally came when she really has to end the relationship once and for all. It became impossible for them to talk without getting into an argument. Therefore, two years ago, after catching her husband red-handed with one of their house cleaners, she put her foot down. Now she knew better, she really had to let go of the relationship.

It is in this kind of situation that one might ponder on the thought of holding on just to save the relationship. In most cases of problem on relationships, an individual would dare to think if he or she should let go or will it be better to stay and try to change things for the better.

At first, it becomes a matter of choice. It is a tough decision you have to make. But the choice to let go and leave the other person is such a heartbreaking experience that your heart seem to cry with such excruciating pain that no one would dare go for on an instant.

What is even worse is for the mothers or the fathers out there who would try to contemplate on hanging on for the sake of the children.

In reality, this part is greatly attributed for the mothers because according to the statistical reports of the census, nearly 85% of all the children that show signs of "behavioral disorders" come from "fatherless homes." This goes to show that it is the father that is most likely to leave the home compared to the mother.

The Agony of Love

For any relationship between a man and a woman, it would be better if they will both make things work out. We cannot dismiss the fact that problems really do thrive in a relationship. In fact, it is the basic ingredient that would make the relationship stronger. 85% of successfully married couples for almost 20 years insisted that their quarrels have been the threshold to a long-lasting relationship.

The only problem with other couples is that they do not know how to deal with the problems easily. What is even worse is that the other person or both of them give up easily.

Some clinical psychologists that are expert on marital affairs asserted that there are three things that a couple should learn to make use of so that they will know whether or not the bond that unites them as one could still be revived.

Here are the three things that the couple should use in their evaluation:

1. Learn how to transform your mate so as to live a mutually harmonious life.

2. Learn to accept the feeling that even if you feel that there is any more between you and your partner, you really just cannot find it easy to leave and so it is better to find a way to save the relationship.

3. Learn to accept the truth if it was you who was you who was so irrational and that you should learn how to find ways to change it.

4. Without any other reason and priorities, learn to make things work out just for the children's sake.

5. To accept the fact that even if there is nothing wrong with your mate, you just could not accept the fact that you are not contented and happy with him anymore.

These are just a few of the many things that the experts would want couples to deliberate so that they could find the answers themselves whether or not it is appropriate for them to leave or to stay.

The problem with some people, especially women, is that they ten to hold on to the fact that their husbands might change. That in spite of the abuses and the pain that they continuously experience, they still believe that there will be changes, even if they do not know exactly when that will be. For this, almost 50% of the reported abused women chose to stay with their husbands.

Given that premise, the question of "Should I stay or should I go?" is not merely a choice. It is a life, where your future will absolutely depend on your answers.

Indeed, nobody knows the answer better than you do. So take time to think things over and ponder hard on the consequences of your actions.