The Art of Courting

As we learn more and more about computers and the Internet, we find ourselves turning to the information sites for practically any thing we are looking for. So, why not online dating? Millions today are traveling that route because it is practical, economical and one of the fastest way to meet that person we are looking for, whether for dating, friendship or our sould mate.

On that note, we turn to the internet to find the Top Ten Online Dating sites. We do not know what percentage of singles are in the world today, but we do know that the number runs into the millions, we turn to the Internet to let it do most of the primary search for us. Many of the articles found on the Internet are geared to help women wade through the maze when looking for a date, a friend, a significant other or their soul mate.

I wanted to make this article different. I wanted to inform the men who are serious about finding that special person to complement their lives, notice I did not say a person who will make them happy, only you are responsible for your happiness, about some of the do's and dont's when preparing to approach a lady you saw and liked when you searched the Top Ten Online Dating sites. I believe that every little bit helps.

Practically every relationship is based on a first impression, usually one you perceive when viewing a photo. In this case, yours.

Here's a list of suggestions that I hope you will find useful.

When placing your photo on any of the dating sites, avoid the following pitfalls:

Do not take a picture without a shirt; Do not take a photo looking un-kept or with your beat up hat; Do not take a photo with your shades on. Women want to see your eyes; Do take a photo if possible, with a suit, or a regular shirt, no writing of any kind on it; Try hard not to lie regarding your age, or your looks, if you meet her, she will realize that you were not truthful; Do place a recent photo, smile. Now we proceed to the meeting personally part.

After exchanging a few likes and dislikes, given each other the number to your cell phone, and agreed to meet somewhere public, the following will apply: Do dress appropriately for that first meeting. Look neat, clean, no chewing gum with your mouth open, that does not impress a woman. Whether that first meeting is long or short, depending on the chemistry, talk. Make eye contact when you speak to your date, answer questions honestly and ask some of your own. Listen.

Please, do not talk about your ex, that only suggests that you are either bitter or still hung up on her. Your date is not your therapist; stay clear in your conversation with the person you just met from your professional or personal problems. You know what they say, laugh and the world laughs with you; cry and you cry alone. Drink with caution, you may send the wrong message if you over do it. Give your date your full attention, a wandering eye is offensive to the person you are with. Act interested in what she is saying; keep it light.

And last but not least, if the chemistry is not there, do not prolong the date, be polite and be honest. I have enjoyed meeting you, but I don't think the chemistry is there between us to merit another date. Good luck in your search, or something else along those lines!