The Best Way To Approach Women At The Gym

The guys at my gym are always asking me how I managed to hook up with "Anna Kournikova."

No, I didn't actually hook up with that Russian tennis player who is also a worldwide sex symbol. But there WAS a girl at my gym who looked JUST like her -- so much so that we all called her her (behind her back) by that nickname.

And all the guys at the gym desperately wanted her. This girl was incredibly hot, and she was Russian, too (with seductive accent). She would come to the gym wearing tiny spandex shorts that revealed a world-class ass, and a skin-tight top that showed off breasts that were so unbelievably perfect that we all assumed she had implants.

(As found out later, this beauty was 100% natural...)

So let me explain how I got this girl, and give some tips on how to approach women at the gym...

The average guy doesn't have any idea how to approach women at the gym -- and so he doesn't even attempt. They think it would be creepy, or awkward, to approach a woman at the gym while she's in the middle of a workout, or cooling down and getting ready to leave. They think she's in her own "zone," focused on her workout, and not in the mood to have some random guy walk up and start talking to her.

The funny (and ironic) thing is that nearly all of the men in the gym are there because they want to make themselves more appealing to girls! They're working out and trying to get in better shape because they want to catch the attention of women.

And yet, when they're actually at the gym, they think the women there are somehow "off bounds."

Gyms are really an excellent environment to approach women, for quite a few reasons. One reason is that when we work out, our brains release endorphins -- the "pleasure" chemical. Women who are enjoying a good workout are literally buzzing as their brains are flooded with endorphins. This makes them the opposite of a woman in a bar who is "on guard" and acting defensive and suspicious when guys try to come close to her.

Now, if there's a hottie at your gym that you want to approach, wait until she's deep into her workout session. Don't try to talk to her when she first shows up, or when climbs on the treadmill five minutes after showing up.

Let her work up a sweat. Allow her brain start firing off those endorphins! Technically, she's actually feeling a bit "high" at this stage!

And if she's been working out hard and could use a break, she'll welcome the opportunity to take a break and talk to you. (IF you approach the right way, of course.)

So here's the gym approach that I used with Anna (as she was doing her stretches after a hard workout, causing every guy in the gym to stop and stare):

"Hey, let me ask you something real quick. It looks like you you keep in good shape, and my friend Mandy just had a baby -- I'm the baby's godfather, and he is soooo adorable -- and anyway, Jennifer really wants to get back in shape and lose the weight she gained from her pregnancy. Do you know any trainers you can recommend? Or maybe some exercise classes?"

This form of gym approach can work well for a few reasons. First, I did not ask permission. I didn't say, "Excuse me, do you mind if I ask you something?" Don't ever ask a girl permission to talk to her. ouWhen you ask permission, you give her a chance to say "no." Instead, jump right into your question.

Second, I mentioned how I am the godfather to my friend Jennifer's adorable baby. As a woman, I'm pushing some of her emotional buttons. If I'm a "godfather" to an infant, then I must be a sensitive, loving, protective guy.

Third, I presented a specific QUESTION that is uncomplicated for her to respond to. She's a sexy, in-shape girl who works out a lot. She's obviously knowledgable about exercise, and will be flattered that I am coming to her for her expertise. So she starts sharing her knowledge and telling me the best way to get my friend Jennifer back in shape...

From that point, now that I'm "in the door," I will use the right conversation tactics to BRIDGE to other cool subjects that help me form a connection with her.

We spent 45 minutes chatting and flirting, then I used a "stealth" move to score her phone number and recommend a place for us to meet on Friday night, and the rest is history.

The bottom line? Learning how to approach women at the gym is really quite simple, when you use the right strategy.