The best way to catch a cheater

Copyright (c) 2009 Ed Opperman

Cheating spouses have been a problem for the faithfully married for almost as long as marriage has been a recognized union. In other words, cheating is an unfortunate reality for married couples, as it has always been. To further complicate this problem, over time, cheaters have become more adept at hiding their deceit, lies, and infidelity. As societies, and technologies, mature -- cheaters learn from others past mistakes to help create for them an alternate life that is well-hidden from you, and from the rest of your world as a couple, for that matter.

The biggest problem spot for couples, in terms of infidelity, these days is the internet. However, many spouses mistakenly blame the internet for the downfall of their marriage, or the corruption of their spouse, and that is simply not the case. In many respects, the internet has replaced the bar scene, looking for prostitutes in the shadier parts of town, and the newsletter-like adult personals of years past. In other words -- the internet is simply an easier-to-use tool for those who already had adulterous tendencies inside of them anyway. While cheaters like the internet because it gives them a sense of anonymity and an extra layer of security, using the internet is actually the best way to identify, and catch, a cheater.

Many people are misled about the true anonymity of the internet. In reality, most of your activities, and your spouse's activities, are clearly visible online, so long as you have the right resources and the know-how to find this information. Maybe your spouse knows how to cover their tracks on their computer -- they delete their emails, they clear their browsing history, and maybe they even scrub their hard-drive with data-shredding software on a regular basis to permanently remove all traces of their illicit activities. However, it's in what they can't do that can eventually lead to them being caught.

Any time that your spouse signs up on a website -- a married-but-dating website, an adult chat service, a video cam website, or any other adult-oriented destination online, their information is stored on that website. What's more, though, is that sometimes, these websites showcase profiles of their members -- profiles that anybody can find, so long as they know what to look for, and how to look for them.

While you may not be able to find this information yourself, people who specialize in extramarital investigations online can. These online investigators can find your spouse online; they can identify which websites he or she is visiting, any profiles that he may have setup, and they can even communicate with your spouse, via an online profile, to obtain definitive proof that your spouse is, in fact, cheating on you.

While cheaters oftentimes find great comfort, albeit misplaced, in the fact that they can hide their online activity on their computers, the best way to catch a cheater is by utilizing the very source of their infidelity against them.