The Right Mindset for Fast, Easy Hookups

Copyright (c) 2009 Vin DiCarlo

In all of my best pickups, there was one common denominator.

Well, two. The first led to the second.

The first thing in the interaction, there was the sense that the woman was trying to impress me.

Now if this is something you're unaccustomed to, let me paint a picture.

First, think about all the times you've talked to women...

You were probably preoccupied with what she thought of you.

You were probably busy trying to say the right thing.

"How can I show this girl I'm smart, witty, cool, macho, tough, sweet, nice, rich, etc"

Now - and seriously, think about this - see how much effort it requires. All those different "requirements" each have a whole sub-set of stuff they involve.

like for example, to show a woman you're smart, you must think of high-brow topics.

You must show that you are witty and can see humor where others don't.

You must compete with others to show that you are not just smart, but SMARTER.

And you must MAKE SENSE with your "unique" views.

That's a LOT OF WORK!

(Oh and by the way, it's completely unnecessary, which is why a lot of times the guys who get the most girls are actually kind of dumb...I know, it sucks.)

Now add to that, OTHER requirements that men think women have on their "attraction checklist" - rich, funny, good looking, strong, etc.

For a moment, imagine yourself being with a woman, and you are talking with a guy who is thinking all these extraneous thoughts so he can impress you.

How OBVIOUS do you think you look to that woman???

Women are not retarded. They can tell when a man wants to impress them too much.

They assume that he is either desperate, or doesn't really believe he's in her league.

Both are instant turn-offs.

And if you've seen any of those bogus romantic comedies where the girl is charmed by the desperate loser who just wants to impress her and show her he's a good guy...

(Sometimes I wonder if Hollywood isn't in on some kind of conspiracy to cockblock every men out there.)

Let me tell you how things look on my end (and keep in mind, this is after literally YEARS, and THOUSANDS OF HOURS of self-education and experience).

When I approach a woman, sometimes she looks up at me with big beautiful eyes, and her face lights up.

Or sometimes she looks at me like just another person.

But inevitably, if I choose her and decide to engage her, something happens...

Her body perks up, and she holds her chest out to display her breasts.

Her eyes get big and bright and she looks into my eyes like a puppy dog.

She begins fidgeting, touching her hair, and shifting her thighs under her skirt to accentuate her hips and butt.

And she begins talking... a LOT.

And I just sit back and let her talk, while escalating.

Wouldn't it be nice if you didn't have to carry the conversational load with beautiful women?

It's DAUNTING to have to go out, night after night, and approach girl after girl.

This is why a lot of men give up, or depend on routines.

If you are going to do all the talking, you might as well have something memorized, just to make it easier.

But I'm not talking about "easier."

I'm talking about EASIEST.

I've always had the vision of doing pickup as easy as possible.

Don't think hard, think smart.