Why Attraction Doesn't Always Mean Sleeping with Her

Copyright (c) 2009 Vin DiCarlo

I continuously study this game.

One thing I've realized in the past couple years is how true the following statement is:

A woman can be attracted to you, but still decide not to sleep with you.

Makes no sense!

I mean, as a guy, if I think a woman is hot, I want to sleep with her, without question.

Actually, I have to admit, that's not always true.

I've said this before, and it may sound weird, but my reality nowadays is more like that of a hot women's life, than the average guy (except for the video games and body hair).

What I mean is, when it comes to women I have so many options that I end up turning them down.

And even if I'm really attracted to a girl, there are times when I've not pursued her because what I had at home was way better.

Having options leads to having great women in your life - the best in fact.

So I never feel desperate to be in bed with any new women. Of course, I do, but only if it doesn't inconvenience me.

This is why a lot of times a women will feel hot for a guy, but won't let it go further than small talk. Maybe she has a great husband, or is seeing too many guys and doesn't want to complicate her life.

But when it comes to women there are other reasons.

Women are different than men in that they can actually turn mating off for a while. I've met so many girls who told me that they have been in a point where they were so frustrated with men that they just turned off that intimacy so they could take a break.

I don't think this is something a lot of guys do, at least not regularly.

This is why it's so important to be well-versed in every aspect of the game. You never have an idea what you're going to be facing until you meet the next girl.

If you know how to differentiate yourself from other guys, you will overcome this "intimacy off switch" if that's her issue.

If she is seeing a lot of other guys, the same thing applies. You need to know how to persist in a way that separates you from all the other guys she's seeing.

Here's the good news - all those guys are doing the same lame crap, so it's really not that hard to look like the best option for her.

But this involves some stuff you may not have any knowledge or experience of.

It's easy to get a number. But the odds of that number actually amounting to you sleeping with her depend on many factors.

If you have been going out regularly, working on your skills, I commend you. That's more than most guys ever do.

But I know that when I was in that crucial learning phase, where I was gaining more confident, and skyrocketing my social intelligence, I reached an impasse.

I could confidently approach a group of women, and get the hottest one engaged in a one-on-one conversation.

I'd get the number, and call her a couple days later. But the same thing would happen every time.

It was so frustrating to go out night after night, spark massive attraction, only to have it all be for nothing.

If I only have an idea then what I know now.

It took a lot of studying female psychology, plus tons of trial and error, just to get on the right track (and boy was I on the wrong one at the beginning).

Imagine needing to go out 25% as much as you do now, but having MORE dates that lead to bed?

Skyrocket your conversion rate, before another wasted night.