Beautiful! I compliment you for starting to identify what you want and what you don't want. Until we make decisions about what we want, we cannot expect to attract it!
Be patient and appreciative of your friend's efforts, as this will encourage the Creative Mechanism to continue sending you opportunities to meet that 'awesome' mate you are wanting. And, of course, it's important to reassure yourself that just because the 'nice' guys you're meeting aren't 'awesome' yet, doesn't mean you have to settle for less than you desire.
You ask, "Is that kind of relationship out there?" Absolutely! I am truly blessed to be in a business that allows me the luxury of witnessing the creation of marvelous romances and soul mate rendezvous every day. And, I'm even more blessed to have purposefully and intentionally used the laws of attraction to manifest my honey (that I'm madly in love with!) Having witnessed the possibility from all angles, I know it's possible for you too.
If you haven't experienced significant and clear 'intentional manifesting' success and you do not have noteworthy examples of others experiencing that success, then it may be a bit more challenging to imagine, to have faith, and to trust in the process and in your inner power of attraction.
Now, for die-hard 'Law of Attraction' purists, you may want to 'skip' the negative explanations of why we don't get what we want below. Why would I write something and then suggest that it could be skipped?
The reason is we don't HAVE to know 'why' we don't get what we want - ever, in order to fully employ the law of attraction. All we HAVE to know is what we want and focus upon that. The law of attraction works without fail and when we focus upon, trust, and allow what we desire, we must attract it.
Unfortunately, however, there are certain life experiences (such as divorce, bankruptcy, career transitions, getting older, having a baby, quitting smoking, etc.) that tend to have 'global consciousness vibrations' that influence our ability (or inability) to create!
For example, many newly divorced persons who have been cast unexpectedly back into the shark pool of single-fiefdom, feel bitter, afraid, inadequate, confused, lonely and like a failure. Often these global-consciousness feelings can then seep into and influence anyone going through divorce.
Therefore, you may find yourself feeling like you're going down without a life preserver and there's nothing in sight that can keep your frustrations and fears from eating you alive! All the while, knowing what you know about conscious living, you may be batty and bewildered about where these negative feelings are coming from!?! To make matters worse, anything that you observe such as statistics and limitations, will influence your ability to intentionally attract.
For example, you may be observing edicts that forecast the fruitlessness of relationships: divorce rates, permanently single 'old-maids' of both sexes, fear of STD's, psycho stalkers, workplace sexual harassment fears, and the overall consensus that 'it's harder now than ever to meet quality, potential mates'.
We haven't even touched on any unloving thoughts that you may be having about yourself such as, "I'm a failure at relationships", or "I'm not thin enough, good enough, smart enough, attractive enough and/or successful enough" or "I wouldn't know how to act on a date", etc.
From this perspective, allow me to answer the question "Is that kind of relationship out there?"
No. That 'kind' of relationship is not going to be available for those who have more of the above thoughts, fears, and beliefs than thoughts of possibility, hope, enthusiasm, forgiveness, and faith.
You may ask, "Is that the Truth?!?! What I want can't happen for me?!?"
NO - it doesn't HAVE to be the truth! In fact, every belief or idea that suggests any of the negative realities above is complete hooey!
Your work is to say, "Balderdash! I refuse to buy into that limited reality! I refuse to give even one more second of my attention to ANY idea that suggests I can't have what I want! I refuse to believe in anything less than, "this is going to be a wonderful new adventure!"
It's all hogwash! If I may use such obscure profanity! None of this has any effect on your ability to attract your ideal soul mate; who loves you exactly as you are and who wants to meet you as much as you want to meet them!
It is so easy to become consumed with what we observe instead of what we desire. In our family and friend's intentionally supportive but often-misguided conversations, we often feel the urge to throw in the towel and just forget the dating thing all together. Resist that urge. You can have ALL that you desire. You must however, refuse to succumb to the observations of reality as seen through the eyes of others or through the eyes of your past.
Instead, choose to create and notice the reality of what you want!
In "The Mystic Path to Cosmic Power" by author Vernon Howard, I discovered a life changing quote: "Dare to have no opinions!"
Read that again, "Dare to have no opinions!"
Now, try that on for size! It is an eye-opening, life-changing choice that I constantly aspire to be more in tune with every day. And on the days that I'm conscious enough to achieve this state of mind - I'm amazed at how fabulous and magical life becomes.
Make a decision to begin anew, refreshed, buoyant and eager. Decide right now that you want to attract circumstances and opportunities to see others experiencing what you want. When you see a couple very much in love, exemplifying qualities that you desire, endeavor to appreciate and ideally thrill over their love affair. The more you can summon feelings of happiness for others (admiration and inspiration as opposed to envy, jealousy, or self-doubt) the more rapidly you will attract the same for you. The more you see and believe that this kind of relationship exists, the easier it will become for you to acquire the unwavering faith necessary to attract it into your life.
Secondly, work on eliminating those limiting beliefs! (You can use EFT - emotional freedom technique, NLP - Neuro Linguistics Programming, etc.) I believe in looking at the reasons 'why' I don't have something. Often, I'll come up with an entire slough of negative thoughts that I wasn't even aware of until I ask myself, "What might be inside of me that is blocking my goal?" Then, I'll systematically employ processes to release those doubts and purify my belief. By actively getting my doubts out of the way, I clear the path that allows me to voyage to my desires with greater hopefulness and certainty.
Rest assured, what you want does exist and just for asking the question, you've already begun to attract it to you!
Copyright, 2007, CreataVision Enterprises, Anisa Aven.
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