Have you discovered that you have read many self help books, listen to Cd's, did most of what was suggested yet nothing has really changed? Are you in the same old place? Are you looking to have a break out year? Being successful at whatever you desire is no mystery, success leaves clues. Successful people share some very common characteristics, learning what they are and applying them will help put you on the fast track. I hear stories all the time as to why a person could not do this or accomplish that. The main thing that stands between people and what they want are the reasons why they can't have it. Winners create results, whiners make excuses. This may seem a little harsh, but it is an absolute truth. Grasping this truth will give you a great jump start but in itself will not bring you the total success you seek. There still remains a little talked about secret that is necessary for that breakthrough experience.
I remember when I jumped on the self improvement bandwagon a number of years ago and did all the things we talked about. While I was experiencing personal growth and changes were occurring, I was still struggling on a financial level. No matter what I tried I just could not seem to breakthrough to that next level. Then one day while listening to one of my mentors speak it suddenly came together and my life changed forever. I was absolutely shocked when I learned that less than 10% of the people who buy a book or buy a cd seminar ever go past the first chapter or cd. I eagerly attacked the material, but I was often very guilty of not applying all the skills taught or doing all the exercises. Then it clicked. There are a number of common characteristics or skills that successful people share. It is not some successful people, some of the key skills, some of the time. It is all successful people , apply all of the key skills, all the time.
Maybe a trip to the kitchen can give us a better understanding of this. Imagine that today we are going to make chocolate brownies. With all the ingredients in front of us what would happen if we forgot to add the chocolate or maybe the mix? That's right- a disaster! What if we did just the opposite? After adding all the ingredients we decided to add a cup of vinegar or sour pickles? I don't think our chocolate brownies would be much of a success. I have found that is exactly what most people do when embarking on a self help program. Instead of applying what they learn, they try a few of the steps but leave out many of the key ingredients. Yet some people add a few extra things into the mixture like a dash of fear, or a pinch of negative speech! Leaving out or adding ingredients to the mixture destroys the recipe. Take a few minutes and reflect on the key essential ingredients to accomplishing the level of success you seek. Now write them down. You will definitely succeed if you go a little slower , focus on developing all of the essential skills, and make it a daily habit. Success is not something we bump into, fall over, or develop once and forget about. It is a lifestyle, a way of life, it takes effort and time. We are victims of our habits, great habits develop great results, and bad habits.....well I think you know.
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Passimistic thought - How much they effect us ?
By: OronD | 06-07-2008
Hi all,I saw a tag-line in one of Yedda's useds to say: "For every winner, there are dozens of losers, odds are we are one of them". It bothered me being a pasimistic thought.... and I believe that the toughts we think are very much responsible for what we achieve... I'll appreciate your smart comments !. Thanks in advance.
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By: voterperson | 05-07-2008
Stacy buys blouses, sweaters and blazers at the 99store and they really are gorgeous. She goes every other day and buys a few or more than a few. Yesterday she went and purchased about twelve blouses (both for summer and winter). This morning the following took place:Stacy: ?Mom I am going to go out for about an hour?Mom: ?To the 99 cent store?Stacy: ?Yes?Mom: ?You just went yesterday and don?t you think you have enough, you don?t have enough storage room, it is becoming obsessive. I don?t care how much of a good buy it is?Stacy went anyway. She went to get the three blouses she left behind yesterday. When Stacy came home her mom was reading a book and then they both decided to have lunch.After lunch Stacy went to check her e-mail:Stacy: ?Mom I received the email from Annie? (Annie is Stacy?s cousin and her mom came into Stacy?s room to hear about the email)Mom: ?Ok what did Annie say.?Stacy: ?She liked my message about the book?Mom: ?So what did you buy today?Stacy showed her mom and her mom loved itSo if you were Stacy how would you interpret the remarks the mom right before Stacy left the house and the remark (?So what did you buy today?) her mom made and should Stacy still go the 99 cent store and not care about what her mom thinks.AND HERE ARE MORE THINGS:BACKGROUND: Most of the time Stacy (54 years old) goes ALONE to the 99 cent store to buy the clothes. Sometimes she will go with her mom (in her 80?s). When Stacy goes by herself she always comes home with the gorgeous stuff (items from Talbot?s, Old Navy, etc) and her mom loves the stuff that Stacy brings home. When Stacy goes with her mother her mother comments.HERE ARE THE THINGS HER MOM SAYS NOT ALL AT ONCE BUT AT VARIOUS TIMES(1) That is short, you don?t like short? (when they are at the 99 cent store)(2)?Look it over to make sure it is in good condition? (when they are at the 99 cent store)(3) ?I only told you that it didn?t look good because you weren?t sure if you liked it or not? (when they are at the 99 cent store)(4) ?Even though it is gorgeous I like the other one better if I was going to wear it?(when they are at the 99 cent store)(5) ?I do love that turtleneck you picked out but thick turtlenecks bother me? (when they are at the 99 cent store)(6) ?I only told you what I thought because you asked me if I liked it or not? (when they are at the 99 cent store)(7) ??But you don?t have to be obsessive. I mean it isn?t like you don?t have anything to wear?? (AT HOME)(8) ?You just went? (AT HOME)(9) ?You are not working right now you have to be careful with your money? and her mom will first say that the 99 cent store is NOT included and then when they fight her mom includes the 99 cent store.(10) Aren?t you going to be hot in that blouse. It is going to be a hot summer day 11) Well what you are wearing is not nice. I cant let you go out of the house like that?*she said this when they were fighting (12) People should wear what is appropriate for the weather? she said this when Stacy said well what would happen if I wore a material that might not be cool for the summer(13) Buy what you want, and I buy what I want but you don?t have to talk about it.?(14) I buy the food, and I am supporting you. But do you realize you are rubbing it in(15) I am working I cannot go to the 99 cent store or Kohl?s or any place like that to shop. You are home and shopping. I mean you talk about shopping constantly. I don?t want to hear it anymore(16) I don?t care what you buy but you don?t have to talk about it. They are pretty but again I don?t want to hear about it. When you get a job you can talk to me about your jobHOWEVER, WHEN STACY GOES BY HERSELF THIS IS WHAT HER MOTHER SAYS WHEN STACY COMES HOME:(1) ?I love what you got - I want it.? (AT HOME)(2) ?I love that and I am going to take that from you? (AT HOME)(3) ?Get me that? (AT HOME)STACY AND HER MOM WILL SAY THE FOLLOWING WHEN THEY ARE AT THE 99 CENT STORE:(1) ?Mom you always make comments? which her mother replied: ?I am allowed to say something and I am allowed not to like something?(2) ?Mom I feel you would have said something about the ones you loved that I brought home if you had come with me on those outings here? which her mother replied ?No I wouldn?t have because they are beautiful. And it is your problem if you feel this way, not mine?(3) Her mother also says ?You really lack self-esteem?(3) Her mom also says ?You know Stacy sometimes you tell me you don?t like an article of clothing I buy, but if I really like it you could stand on your head and I wouldn?t care if you liked it or not because I do.SO MY QUESTION: (1) DO you think Stacy is overreacting to the comments her mother makes; (2) DO you think Stacy?s mom would have made comments about the items Stacy brought home If her mom had gone with Stacy on those outings?
What is the proper way for a teenager to break out ...
By: drabsv | 04-07-2008
What is the proper way for a teenager to break out of the parental protection and interference (or just assert one's position in the family), without resorting to bitter conflicts, disrespectful behaviour, etc?I've noticed that a lot of people struggle with this issue even in their mature age. Tight relations and quarrels between parents and children/ between siblings/ etc make some very ugly scenes. And conflict resolution in such cases seems to be very hard to achieve. What works for the world outside the family would not be in place to apply within the family. You can choose your friends (as well as your enemies...) but not your relatives. The adversity you might feel in family relations should not be met the way you should meet adversity outside your home. Moreover, the "external adversity" comes out of truly ill intentions whereas "family adversity" comes out of attempts to protect and love, brought to extremes.
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By: rukas | 04-07-2008
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