 |
It is Time to Forgive and Move on
Author: Sarah Taylors  | Posted: 28-09-2007 | Comments: 0 | Views: 47 | Rating: (60)  (?) 
Have your ever been hurt by someone?
Has anyone ever caused serious injury to you either emotionally, mentally or physically?
Are you or any of your family a victim of a heinous crime?
You are not alone. At some point of our lives, we had experienced hurt caused by our loved ones, friends, and even people whom we are not acquainted with. Although some have found a way to forgive their offenders but many of us are still trapped in brokenness and forgiveness seems to be the last thing we ever will do; let alone cursing and wanting evil to happen to our offenders.
When we have been hurt, all we wanted to know is the reason why the hurtful action or words were directed at us. Many times we ask questions such as:
“Why did he do that to me? I’m innocent!”,
“I don’t deserve to be treated like this at all, why did it happen to me and not to others?,
“I thought we are good friends, but how could someone did that to a good friend?”
Some may be bold enough to confront their offenders and seek answers. While others rather not see their offenders again in their lifetime and the unfound answer to their “why” questions will only deepen their brokenness.
The step to forgiveness is even harder for those who have been abused physically where their scars remain a constant prove of injustice done to them. For some, the offenders have been caught and are now serving jail terms. Yet for others, their perpetrators are still looming around freely; victimizing more people.
Whether you have been emotionally, mentally or physically hurt by someone, and you have not forgiven the offender, please stop living in brokenness. Allow yourself to live a life of fullness and happiness. We may think that if we forgive our offenders, it will only let them know that what they have done is acceptable and we don’t hold them guilty anymore. Also, if our offenders know we have forgiven them, they may see no wrong in what they did and continue hurting us.
Well, let me share with you another perspective. It is not how the offender reacts that matters. It is how you choose to react to the hurt caused. Whether the offender seeks forgiveness from us and lives the rest of their lives feeling guilty, or the offender has no sense of humanity in the wicked act done, it does not matter. What really matter is how you take control of your life, not allowing your offender to ruin it.
It is never easy. We all have tried to forgive but at times we let our anger dictate our willingness to forgive. This simply means that if we are still angry at our offenders, we should not forgive them “now” but sometime “later” when the anger is gone. Such a day will never come until we deal with ourselves first.
Start forgiving in layers. Many of us think that once you forgive, you are healed completely and your anger will be gone forever. This is not true. We have to keep forgiving until the day you no longer feel angry or hurt about the offense. While doing that, you are also allowing yourself to release the pain which otherwise will be kept inside for as long as you choose not to forgive. For some, forgiveness takes weeks, and for others, it may take years. The time it takes to completely forgive a person does not matter. It is the time you begin forgiving that changes your life.
Talk to someone and share your feelings. If you think forgiving your offender may be too huge a burden to begin with, talk to a close friend, your spouse, family member, or anyone you can confide in. As you share the incident and hurts to someone, you are being heard and empathized. This is one of the major factors that make forgiveness possible. All you need is to validate your hurts and have someone understand what you went through. Sharing is not good enough; you will need to begin forgiveness by having someone walk the forgiveness path with you, if you can’t do it alone.
Choose to live and not hate. It takes more energy to love than to hate. It’s true. Do you remember the last time you hated someone? Weren’t you overwhelmed by negative emotions and you just can’t do anything in that state of emotion? This is what happens when you choose not to forgive. Not only will you harbor resentment and bitterness in, but your health will also be greatly affected. High blood pressure, depression, and headache are just several health problems related to unforgiveness. Why allow yourself to suffer these consequences when you deserve to life a more fulfilling and happier life after what you had gone through or are still going through?
Before you go to bed today, think about someone whom you have not forgiven. Start your forgiveness process today. When you do that, the healing of your hurts will take place and set you free from your emotional brokenness. When you look back a few years from now, you will be glad that you choose to forgive instead of to hate. Let this powerful transformation lead you to a path of emotional freedom and a life of abundance because you only live once in this lifetime!
Rate this Article:
Current: 5 / 5 stars - 1 vote(s).
Article Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/self-help-articles/it-is-time-to-forgive-and-move-on-222387.html
About the Author:Author, Sarah Taylors, manages a directory that provides women related information and links to websites that sell products & services for women consumers. Visit her directory to find out more: Women's Appeal Directory. Read more motivational related articles.
|
Submitting articles has become one of the most popular means of generating quality backlinks and targeted traffic to your website. Join us today - It's Free! |
|
Related Articles
Who's the One at Your Core?
By: Angelo Campione | 05/07/2008 | New Age
People often say things like "if only I had a $1,000,000.... or if only I had a great body (etc)… then I’d be happy”.
Well... here's the thing, if you want to change your external world, you need to find who's the one at your core. It’s said that life is simply a reflection of YOU.
5 Ways to Feel Great, Now
By: Angelo Campione | 15/07/2008 | Self Help
How often do you get up in the morning and feel great?
For most people, the answer is not very often if ever at all. The standard mode is getting out of bed because you have to and from there living the rest of the day with a low level feeling...
The Healing Power of Forgiveness
By: Minh Nguyen, D.d.s. | 13/10/2006 | Non-Fiction
Forgiveness is the answer to the child's dream of a miracle by which what is broken is made whole again, what is soiled is made clean again (Dag Hammarskjold).
5 Ways to Feel Good, Now
By: Angelo Campione | 06/07/2008 | Advice
How often do you get up in the morning and feel great?
For most people, the answer is not very often if ever at all. The standard mode is getting out of bed because you have to and from there living the rest of the day with a low level feeling of unease.
Secrets for your Heart And... Magically Create...
By: Piercarla Garusi | 07/09/2006 | Motivational
I heard the story of this person... she was very unhappy... stressed, feeling depressed, anxious, angry, lonely, hopeless, struggling...just surviving...but then...
Jesus Christ, Superman Part Six
By: Linda Dipman | 03/04/2007 | Religion
It's a bird. . It's a plane. . No! It's Jesus Christ, Superman, Savior of the world! At noon the whole country was covered with darkness, which lasted for three hours.
Happiness Heroes: Jamie L. Saloff, Author, on the Air Equation
By: Toronto Arkland | 26/10/2007 | Motivational
About an author and writer woman who survives cancer, becomes pregnant soon thereafter, and haves multiple healthy children. Her kids are her inspiration. Read how she worked hard to overcome the lack of acceptance and respect she received from doctors, friends and family, all elements of the AIR Equation: The 3-Part Formula For Happiness.
Learn to Heal Bad Memories, not Suppress Them
By: M. Deskins | 07/02/2008 | Self Improvement
I am currently learning a hard lesson from suppressing my past mistakes instead of trying to heal from them. I have written some advice on how you can avoid the same mistakes I made.
Got a Question? Ask.
Ask the community a question about this article:
Frequently Asked Questions
Is ireland a free country or under british rule
By: ann | 28-08-2008
is ireland a free country or under british rule
I am torn between 2 men that are totally opposit ...
By: supersad | 28-08-2008
I am torn between 2 men that are totally opposit of each other. One of them is my ex-husband of 17 yrs and high school sweetheart, we have 2 beautiful daughters and anything we ever wanted. He wasn't perfect by no means but I know that he loved me alot. I met someone else who treats me like gold and is a wonderful man, however we struggle financially and I work at a job that I hate. We have been together 6 yrs now. My ex and I have talked about getting back together someday. I don't want to hurt either one or myself but I know its coming. I have never felt so lost in my entire life. How does someone make these decisions and what should I ask myself?
Need sex advice
By: Angel | 28-08-2008
I am a sex craved wife. I could have sex everyday and sometimes twice a day. Now my husband on the other hand is different. He is okay with 1 a week and sometimes 1 a month. He does not like me initiating it either. What can I do?
I asked a question yesterday regarding my ...
By: cindy | 28-08-2008
I asked a question yesterday regarding my difficutly getting through my divorce, I am a LCSW and noted my expertise were in marrige and divorce, I asked for some referrals and I never got a response,
How would you deal with death?
By: SomeWeirdGuy | 27-08-2008
how would you deal with death?
Okay so i have an amazing boyfriend but i started ...
By: weldergirl89 | 27-08-2008
okay so i have an amazing boyfriend but i started this training program at work and meet alot of new people and one stood out and i never said anything to him i just kept it in the back of my head and then towards the end of the program he asked me to a movie and i wanted to jump up and say yes, but i had to say ahh, i would love to, but i have a boyfriend, and i told him we could go as friends and he said that would be nice and never brought it back up. Well hes at the job im on now, working the construction site next to me and I still think about him all the time and would love to go out with him sometime but i know its wrong becasue of my boyfriend but idk i try to talk to him everyday to keep communication open what do I do now?
Q&A Powered by: 
Latest Self Help Articles
Go for African American Speakers
By: Kassia Macy | 05/09/2008
The results of a survey on the most popular phobias concluded that most of the people are not that afraid of death or of accidents, but they are afraid of speaking in front an audience. Besides, the survey’s statistics say that African American speakers are the best in this area. Black speakers are not afraid to express their opinions in public. They are always fit and when they enter a room, everybody can feel their energy.
Beat Your Travel Alarm Clocks to the Draw!
By: Bradlley Mckoy | 04/09/2008
You have many of those infernal inventions man created to absolutely wreak havoc on your age-old biological patterns and decades-old psychological stability. And no, this is not the institution of marriage. These are travel alarm clocks - the types that scream like hellish banshees, explode like nuclear bombs, and buzz...
Top 3 Ways to Stay Connected to the Outdoor
By: Don Jacobson | 04/09/2008
Love the great outdoors? If you're the type who would rather be hiking up a mountain or rafting down a river that controlling the remote, you know exactly what I mean. I'm always amazed when someone tells me their ideal vacation requires a hotel room with 100 channels on the...
How to Read Body Language: Interpreting Body Language Signs for Better Communication
By: Michael Lee | 04/09/2008
Reading and interpreting body language can help you break down barriers of communication. It gives you an idea on the best way to approach someone and provides an insight into another person’s thoughts or future actions.
Take This First Step to Overcoming Shyness and Gaining Poise!
By: Dr. O. Akin-Ogundeji | 03/09/2008
Understanding the real meaning of poise is your first step towards gaining poise! Do you really know what poise is? What do you think are three of the characteristics of a well-poised person? Believe it, not many people understand what poise is. There are many misconceptions about what poise is. Such misconceptions have hampered many shy people. Don’t let this happen to you! Understanding what poise is, is an important step to overcoming shyness or gaining poise.
How to Detect Deception: Reliable Tools to Detect Deception and Lies
By: Michael Lee | 02/09/2008
Professional liars have trained themselves to tell lies with a straight face; and they can do it with ease after long hours of practice. Relying on nonverbal cues alone can lead to misinterpretation.
The Asteroid Goddesses
By: Maya White | 01/09/2008
Astrology has been used as a navigation tool throughout the ages by royalty, clergy, politicians, celebrities, and people just like you and me. The mysteries of planetary influences and archetypes provide us with a blueprint for existence. Conscious understanding of these mysteries gives you control and mastery of your own life.
The Power of Prayer 3
By: Steve Morgan | 01/09/2008
I wish to share what happened after the near death experience so you can strengthen your own faith.
More from Sarah Taylors
Women: are you at Risk for Heart Attack?
By: Sarah Taylors | 19/12/2007 | Women's Health
This article shares several critical facts on the prevalence of heart disease among women. In addition, it also explains the warning signs of heart attack that every woman should know.
Simple and Effective Ways to Deal With Picky Eater
By: Sarah Taylors | 28/09/2007 | Parenting
This article shares various tips on dealing with children who are picky eaters. These tips has been tested and proven to produce positive results; when children grow to love the meal time while mommies get more and more excited about preparing the next meal for them.
Myth About Down Syndrome That Everyone Should Know
By: Sarah Taylors | 26/09/2007 | Diseases and Conditions
This article explores some of the major myths about Down Syndrome. Each myth is debunked with the truth concerning one specific aspect of Down Syndrome.
Traveling Guidelines for Pregnant Mothers
By: Sarah Taylors | 26/09/2007 | Home and Family
Traveling for pregnant mothers can be as enjoyable as the times when she is not pregnant. Here are several useful and essential travel guidelines which many pregnant mothers have benefited from.
Does Love Exist at the End of the Tunnel?
By: Sarah Taylors | 26/09/2007 | Poetry
This poem depicts the dialogue of an individual who is searching for love at the end of the tunnel. Read on to find out the results.
An Awakening Moment I Will Never Forget, Will You?
By: Sarah Taylors | 26/09/2007 | Motivational
This is an inspirational article which reminds us of the hardship which many of us face in our everyday lives and how a writer's observation changes her perspective of life, such is an awakening moment that changes her life forever!
How Do I Cope With Changes in Life?
By: Sarah Taylors | 24/05/2007 | Motivational
This is a motivational article that teaches a simple yet effective method to produce a change in any individual. The method which is known as "I Can”, represent the 4-steps process involved: Identify, Create, Assess & Never Give Up. Read this article now to find out what lies in the success of producing change to achieve your goals in life.
Essential Steps to Getting the Best Buy
By: Sarah Taylors | 24/05/2007 | Finance
Shopping for products and services has been one of the daily activities most carried out. If shoppers do not plan their shopping budget carefully, many will find themselves overspending on products that are not necessarily important and needed. In this article, you will find some practical and essential steps to getting the best buy when shopping. These steps can be practiced immediately and could help you save hundreds and thousands of dollars.
|
|
Self Improvement 
