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By: Enigma Valdez | 28/11/2007 | Self Help
Almost everyone I know wants to know how they can increase their cash flow. Perhaps you have questioned why some people seem to always have money while others struggle just to make ends meet. I think it is safe to say that most of the world uses and needs money to...

How To Easily Change How You Feel
By: Garry Zancanaro | 09/08/2006 | Self Help
We all know that how we feel affects how we look, but we can also actually change how we feel by changing the way we move, our posture and even our facial expressions.

How Clear is Your Vision?
By: Garry Zancanaro | 06/09/2006 | Goal Setting
If you make the effort to regularly focus on and visualise your goals, no matter what worries or problems you are facing, you will eventually find you are thinking about them most of the time, and that you become a more positive, optimistic, happy and successful person.

Why Self Improvement Is Important - Part 1
By: Garry Zancanaro | 28/08/2006 | Self Help
An alarming percentage of people spend most of what they earn and many also have large debts. They are often no more that a few paydays away from bankruptcy and have little, if anything, put aside for emergencies, much less for a comfortable retirement.

Why Self Improvement Is Important - Part 2
By: Garry Zancanaro | 28/08/2006 | Self Help
Only you can decide what you want from your life and what will make you happy. Nobody else is responsible for your happiness, your success, or what you make of your life.

What Do You Really Want? Part 1
By: Garry Zancanaro | 08/09/2006 | Goal Setting
It's extremely important and not that difficult to rediscover the things that were once so important to us, or to uncover what's most important to us now. We must establish exactly what we really want from life. There's little point spending years of your life climbing the ladder of success, only to find out way too late that it's been leaning against the wrong building!

Rising Above Mediocrity Today
By: Patric Chan | 10/12/2007 | Self Improvement
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Does Listening to Motivational Speakers Really Make a Difference?
By: Kelly Carr | 22/05/2008 | Motivational
Motivational Speaking and Personal Development is an $8 Billion Dollar per year industry in America. Success and Personal Development Books, CD's, and DVD's are surpassing all time records. What is the explanation for this motivational phenomenon? Can the Success and Self-help Gurus really do all they claim? Will their motivational phrases and motivational sayings change your life? This article will take a look into this industry.

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Is this some sort of ocd or something. I have this ...
By: wondering79 | 20-07-2008
is this some sort of ocd or something. I have this habit really it's more than a habit it's all the time . it's kinda hard to explain and i feel kinda dumb talking about it like i should be able to control it and just stop. but I scratch and gouge my scalp till i leave scars. I've notice i do it alot in the car and when i'm stressed but most of the time it just whenever. It hurts so bad sometimes but it's like i can't stop till i have a hole in my head. Lord help me if my fingers find an old scar... just to leave a new one. Thank god for long hair so no-body knows except the random hair dresser. i'm so tired of it.. i'm tired of the pain i'm inflicting when i'm doing it... the sting i get when washing my hair from the soap and water.. the guilt i fell when i do it.. what is wrong with me and why can't i just stop

Some information about a malardy
By: hamedkhalilian2001 | 20-07-2008
Hi I want to know some information about malady In this case when patient saw for example a name or a place imagine color or flavor (e.g kent couse to pink ) This malady couse to depression. I want exact name and some information thank you

What is mild retard and how can you get help for ...
By: boo | 19-07-2008
what is mild retard and how can you get help for it

Even tho it is long please answer - thanks
By: voterperson | 19-07-2008
This is a survey. When you answer please give details for each answer. AND CAN YOU ANSWER THIS WAY: FOR EXAMPLE YOU PICK B: (B) Focus on the many people who told you are thin/skinny DON?T JUST PUT THE LETTER (1) If around nine people (for example) over the years said negative things (or what you perceive as negative) about your weight, however, everyone else (numerous people) tells you that you are thin/skinny, single digit sizes would you think about: (A) The few people who said negative things about your weight (or what you perceive as negative OR (B) Focus on the many people who told you that you are thin/skinny and single digit sizes (2) Do you focus on what you looked like in: (A) In the past OR (B) What you look like now (3) Do you focus on what people said about what you look like weight wise (A) In the past OR (B) In the present (4) If you were at a party and someone said to you ?I see you are being good? (meaning you are not eating anything fattening would you think they did not think you are thin (5) If you are were at a party and someone said to you ?I see you are being good? ? (meaning you are not eating anything fattening) would you think they were just referring to the food that is being served? (6) If a person who is heavy tells you that they think you are average size and size 8/10 BUT everyone else (even strangers) always tells you that you are very thin and size 4 (A) Do you listen to the person that called you average and ignore the ones who told you that you are size 4 and skinny OR (B) Do you listen to the people that told you that you are thin/skinny and size 4 and ignore the one who said average and size 8/10? (7) If you bump into a person that wears glasses and they asked if you gained weight and the then they take off their glasses and saw that the glasses they were wearing were their old pair that magnified everything and realized you did not gain weight and still are skinny (A) Do you accept the fact that they realized it was the glasses that made you look bigger OR (B) Or do you read into their remark and refuse to believe them (8) If your mom notices you lost weight and says you are thin enough and you were always thin (A) Would you think they did not think you were always thin OR (B) Would you just think they noticed you lost weight (9) If you had food poisoning and came back to work two days later and a coworker saw you and said you are skinny and later on they said that what they meant is that your face looked like it lost weight and when one isn?t smiling one looks paler and their face looks thinner (A) Would you accept that they were just talking about your face and they thought you were always thin OR (B) Would you read into their remarks (10) If a vendor tells you that they have size 10 jeans to sell and you are a size 6 (A) Would you think they were just trying to sell the jeans and would say this to a size 2 OR (B) Would you think otherwise (11) If a female cousin of yours asks you if you are a size 8 due to the fact they are cleaning out their closet and you tell them you are a size 8 and they reply I THOUGHT you are a size 8 but could not remember if you told them you are a size 8 or 10 (A) Would you accept the fact that they thought you are a size 8 but had a memory lapse and could not remember if you told them size 8 or size 10? OR (B) Would you think they did not think you are a size 8 (12) You go into a health store and purchase two herbs and then once you pay for them you ask the clerk how much should be taken and he says most woman weigh a 160 pounds but you weigh a little less. You ask him to clarify and he says he thinks you weigh a 130. This upsets you because everyone is always saying that they think you are 110 pounds. (KEEP IN MIND WHEN HE SAID THIS REMARK YOU WERE STANDING BEHIND THE PARTITION, YOU ARE WEARING A COAT AND ALL HE CAN SEE IS YOUR ARMS AND FACE) (A) Do you say well he cannot see me because I am standing behind a partition OR (B) Read into his remarks and think otherwise (13) If you are wearing pants that balloon at the hips and a male friend of yours says you have ample hips, however, the next day when you wearing pants that do not balloon at the hips and he looks at you says ?No you don?t have ample hips it was just the pants you wore yesterday?? (A) Do you accept the fact that he does not think you have ample hips and it was only the pants that did it OR (B) You do not accept his answer (14) You are at the Xerox machine making copies. A female coworker comes over to make copies and you ask her if she thought you were thin and she answered ?Well? in a hesitant way. But then she left because she did not want to wait. However, later on she saw your entire body and ran over and said ?My God you are thin. I always saw you sitting so I never realized how thin you are? (A) You would accept the fact they thought you were thin OR (B) Would you read into their remarks and thought otherwise (15) If someone tells you that they think you are a size 5/6 and they also say that their employee thinks you are a size 5/6 but you have hips but they do not think your hips are big (A) would you accept the fact that all they are saying is you are thin with shape OR (B) Would you read into their remarks and thought otherwise (16) IF your female therapist (who is thin) says to you: (1) ?You are the right weight for your size? (2) ?You are not overweight or underweight? (3)and the therapists asks ?Do you like to be thin because it is ok to be thin? (4) ?You are thin not skinny: (5) And the reason I don?t call people thin is Because some people are insulted when you tell them you think they are thin, they say why do you think I am too thin and Because many times I associate thin as being too skinny, thin usually isn?t in my vocabulary?: (6) ?You cannot go by definition of thin but by the person. Let me explain: In other words lets say a girl by the name of Donna is blonde. When you look at the definition it doesn?t say Donna is blonde, it says blonde is a color, same applies to thin. You are thin. I said you are definitely think absolutely thin. I said it about six times. Again you are absolutely and definitely thin. I will repeat it again.? and she repeated it a few more times (A) Would you accept the fact she thinks you are thin OR (B) No you would not   (17 ) Lets say you only saw your best friend for the first 18 years of your life. Then you move and saw her in 1973, 1977, 1985, and 2002 - just for about five minutes in each year. And the rest of the time you just talk on the telephone. Then on January 2008 the following telephone conversation took place: (1) Your best friend tells you while you are speaking on the phone that she is so surprised how the elementary school kids dress and they are more endowed. And that when she was in school she was a size 7 but now she is a size 12; (2) and when you tell her that you are a size 6/8 she said ?I thought you would be a size 10 because my mother is a size 12, my mother-in-law is a size 16, my friend Cheryl is a size 10, and another friend is a size 12, my sons girlfriend who is 19 years old is a size 3. I mean you are far from fat but the average woman takes a size 10. However, I don?t remember what you look like all I remember is you wore a pink suit with lipstick that matched, you must be skinny (A) would you accept the fact she does not remember what you look like and the only reason she said size 10 is because of the women she sees on a day-to-day basis and the size 10 comment was made on the phone and not face-to-face OR (B) You don?t agree   (18) Lets say you are on the bus with a friend - you both are thin and she spots a girl on flag outside a Karate school in a bikini. And she said "IF you take Karate you can look like her too". She clarified YOU as meaning people in general. First you thought she meant you are not thin so you ask her and she said the following: (1) You are on the thin side. Yes you can accept the fact you are thin. (2) "You have a thin face" But you say to her "But I am thin every where" and she replied yes you are (4) She says ?I have a friend that is thinner than us? (5) And she also says ?No one would ever call you fat?; (5) And you are not anorexic which you are glad about. (6) And you tell her that everyone says I am skinny she replied: "Well it is better than every one telling you that you are fat" (A) You would accept the fact that she thinks you are thin and she was just making fun of the flag OR (B) No you would not accept it (19) You are at drugstore talking to a clerk (who is fat) you are thin. The female clerk asks you ?Did you gain weight. I mean before you were too thin but now you are perfect.? But this bothered you so you wrote a lot of letters to her and called her a lot to clarify. And then the next time you came into the store she tells you the calls and letters must stop. You say ?Just tell me do you think I am thin? And she lashes out at you and says ?NO, that she is thin? - even though you know she is fat. (A) Would you tell yourself that the clerk had to say you were not thin because she had to say something nasty to get rid of you because you were pestering her and writing letters to her and the clerk knows you are thin and all she meant was that before you were too thin but you are still thin? OR (B) No you do not accept it   (20) You (who is a size 6/8) are at the park with your friend Tom. You are wearing an oversized sweater. He looks at the sweater and says (1) Size 10 body in a size 12 sweater? (2) ?I don?t think you are a size 10 all I am trying to do is make a comparison between the body and the sweater. I could have easily said size 50 body in a size 52 sweater, OR a size 100 body in a size 102 sweater.? - Then for some reason you and he lost touch for two years and then bump into one another and you both go grab a cup of coffee. An hour later out of the blue he hands you the following note that he wrote that he swore to himself if he ever ran into you he would give to you:   ?You are not extra, extra large, You are not extra large, You are not large, You are not medium and has never been medium,. YOU ARE SMALL AND HAS ALWAYS BEEN SMALL. YOU ARE A SIZE 5 AND IF A SIZE 5 IS LARGE THAN YOU ARE A SIZE 1.?   (A) You feel all your friend Tom was doing two years ago was just trying to show the difference between the body and the sweater and Tom does NOT think you are higher than a size 5. (B) You do not agree (21) You are with your friend Patricia. She tells you that (1) ?I had a dream about the Beatnicks. I dreamt that John and Steve from the group liked us and we hung out with them. However, Steve the one you were with said I only like girls with plump legs and I told Steve you have plump legs and then I woke up? Keep in mind you always wear long skirts. You ask her ?do you think my legs are plump? Patricia said ?NO I HAVE NEVER SEEN YOUR LEGS AND IT WAS ONLY A DREAM? (A) You accept the fact she said she does not think your legs are plump and it was only a dream OR (B) NO you don?t accept it   (22) In 1987 you were talking with Bob (your boss) and your friend Nancy. Bob says (1) Nancy you are skinny? (2) But when you ask him if he thinks you are thin - he says no, but knows you are obsessed with weight. Later on you think Bob said to you that he was only kidding. And you Know for a fact that your other bosses always say that you eat to live, we live to eat? Even though you have an excellent memory you cannot remember if it really happened or you imagined the above incident (A) Do you say to yourself No one would flat out tell someone they are fat unless it was a joke. They might say something like you know you are a little bit overweight or something a bit more polite. The incident could be real because you think Bob told you he was clowning around. Also guys like to annoy girls and play on their sensitivities OR (B) You do not agree        

Husband's sexual problem is hurting me/us
By: whywhywife | 19-07-2008
I am a loving wife of 4 yrs. I love my husband with all my heart and both of us have been married before. My husband has a problem in which I have found out about on many occassions. His problem is that even though he says that he loves me... he calls other women, using his cell phone and he talks to them there and on line. He gets the womens numbers on line somewhere. I have found names of women and phone numbers, written on post it notes, probably 3-4 different times in our marriage already and once, just about 8 months into our marriage, I found him writing down a woman's AOL email address, while he was on the computer. He didn't know I was come over by him and I plainly saw what he was writing and I was devastated at what I saw! I also caught him, by finding that he had a password and user name written on a piece of paper for an adult on line matching site (not like eHarmony matching, sexual matches). This was while I was doing laundry and checking pants pockets. I called the customer service number on the paper and made like I didn't know what it was and that I had mistakened it for a different company or service. I have also been in the presence of supposed wrong number calls of women announcing that they were returning his call or that he had emailed them to call or etc. Then, because I am nearby and overhear this, I of course question him on it and/or we then get into an argument, because he totally lies to me about it all. He acts like I'm some totally stupid women and that its my imagination about what it means ....the numbers, the calls, him being on line and clicking off so very quickly when he hears me coming down the hallway towards him and the computer will be in my site. We again have just gone through the same thing with the phone calls going on. I was gone on a Sunday afternoon for a couple of hours and when I came home, his phone beeped that there was a voicemail message there for him. I asked him to see who called, he was hesitant, but he did it and tried to say that it was his Mother and that he'd call her back at another time. I right away that something was not right. He was lying to me and I just knew it. That night we went to bed without anything being said about that voicemail message. But it just bothered me as I lie in bed all night long, I couldn't sleep. I felt sick to my stomach and I was hurting, because I knew I was being played and it hurt! I got up and it was 2 AM and I went in the other part of our house and with his cell phone in hand, I checked the phone numbers called and recently received. There were many phone numbers there that had an * in front of two other numbers and then a regular number. There were many phone numbers in a row, all made over the approx. 3 hr. span of time that I was gone from the home. I also saw that he had called some of those same numbers during the previous week, while he was at his office at work! I was devastated that I saw this, even though I felt so badly for snooping in his phone call records, but I had to know for myself, what was going on that day. I unfortunately found what I thought I had already knew....but that didn't hurt me any less. I confronted my husband right away, back in our bedroom. He was angry at me for looking in his phone and I told him that he couldn't deny what I found....I even repeated what one of the women says on her voicemail message, so he knew that I truly had caught him now. I was hurt, scared and needing to talk to someone, but not family, because I WAS embarrassed. I was torn, do I go or do I stay with this man that I love, but after all of this, I feel like I am nothing.....I am not the woman that he wants. I went to see a counselor by myself, I needed someone to listen and help me with this problem and come to an answer for myself. The counselor asked for my husband to come to my next session. I ended up asking my husband to come, but not until I got the nerve up to ask him finally. He asked why did she want him there? I just said that she asked for him to come along and that I needed for him to come..for us! I expressed that I didn't know if I could stay married to him or not, since I was truly hurt and crying a lot for 3-4 days. I wanted to die, that is how much I was hurting, I wanted to be out of the situation and never hurt like that again, this was the last time I could let this happen to me. My husband had agreed to come and he did attend the session with my counselor. The counselor spoke with my husband for a while and then she asked him if he loved me, he said yes, but that he doubted if I now loved him and then she proceeded to be straight with him and tell him that he has a sexual addiction. She talked to him about it and I felt better because I didn't feel like it was ME. It was an addiction and we would need to work on this.....together if we wanted to and I agreed. I need to know more about this sexual addiction and how and why men do this and they hurt their wives and family. How do I help him stop and I want to be there to help him stop. Give me some advice on this problem, the cause and the cure. I'd like to hear from other women, that have had to deal with this addiction with their husbands. I need advice and other stories to feel that I am not alone! Thank you! Whywhywife

Colleges and careers in law/paralegal,psychology and western and or eastern medicin?
By: Caroline | 19-07-2008
Does anyone know of careers that combine law, psychology, and medicine combined? Any schools that may have certificate in Paralegal and degrees in Psychology and some studies of western and eastrn medicne?

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Mind Control Techniques – How to Use the Semi-silent Treatment
By: Michael Lee | 22/07/2008
Mind control techniques are the new weapons of communication and persuasion in the world today. This article reveals a useful way to unleash the power of mind control by harnessing your own abilities.

Persuasion Techniques: How Kids Use Persuasion to Get What They Want
By: Michael Lee | 22/07/2008
Think back to your own childhood days and try to remember if you’ve used any of the following persuasion techniques. You might be more persuasive than you think.

Persuasion in Advertising: How to Use Persuasion Techniques in Advertising
By: Michael Lee | 22/07/2008
Persuasion in advertising is not just a case of telling people to buy this or use this, and then cite reasons. Some might even go far as to say it is an art - you have to look at it from different angles.

Mastering Your Mind Power: Determining What You Really Want
By: Harold L Lowe | 22/07/2008
There is a psychological reason for doing this. You are figuratively flushing the things you DO NOT WANT out of your mind and out of your life. What remains is what you truly DO WANT.

Top 3 Critical Success Factor That You Cannot Miss
By: Shawn Lim | 21/07/2008
Do you know what determines your success? Why there are people who are so successful in their life, while there are also people who live a mediocre life? What are the differences that separate these two groups of people? So, if you want to achieve great success in your life, are you serious about it? Do you just talk about it and do nothing or you are willing to put in 100 percent commitment to make it come true?

Quiz Yourself- What Rules You - Heart or a Head
By: Andy Smith | 21/07/2008
Human beings are emotional animals. At the same time we analyze and think with our head. In any given situation, heart or head does not always guide our response. It may be both heart and head that determine our response. For example, you may find one of your co-workers making major blunders.

How to Get Your Ex to Talk to You: Secrets to Getting Your Ex to Talk
By: Jon83 | 21/07/2008
If you’ve recently experienced a breakup and still have feelings for your ex but they wont talk to you, what do you do? There is one foolproof method for doing this, it takes a small amount of work but in the end it’s worth it’s weight in gold.

The Most Important Thing to Know if You Want to Get Your Ex Back
By: Jon83 | 21/07/2008
Being in love is often a blissful experience, but if that person is your ex, then it is often a nightmare. If you want to get back with your ex, then there is one vital principal that you need to know.

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