Self-help Secrets Revealed - Part 1

What is this Ebook about?  How to help yourself in your Growth Journey and bring to yourself all the best resources you can muster to achieve your goals.

What Information do you need?   You need to understand basic self-help categories.

·       Do you have problems to solve (e.g. anxiety, depression, low self-esteem)?

·       Do you have goals you wish to achieve (e.g. confidence, career success, and wealth creation)?

Probably you will be dealing with both.  That’s the story for most of us.  If you have Problems to Solve, these will inevitably affect Goals to Achieve.

Conversely, if you have Goals you want to Achieve, you will likely uncover Problems that need Solving along the way. In either case, dealing with one will positively affect the other.

Commit yourself to becoming the Best Person you can while having fun and enjoying your Life.

These are the Fundamentals to creating a Healthy Positive Attitude. It doesn’t matter where you begin, as long as you have a goal. A self-improvement goal is easy to state, as we did above.

Committing yourself to becoming the Best Person you can could be considered an Umbrella Goal.

Under this Umbrella Goal there will be many sub goals. For example:

·       Dealing with Anxiety

·       Building Self-Esteem

·       Going back to school

·       Building or remodeling your home

·       Establishing Career Success

·       Finding a partner

·       Creating Wealth and Abundance in Your Life

 Each of these sub goals will have needs of their own.

For example:

Would increased Self-Esteem help in any of the above goals?  Of course it would.  Would reducing anxiety levels help in the above goals? Of course it would.  Would “Thinking More Positively” help in the above goals? Absolutely!

See how we move from the umbrella goal to sub goals belonging to Problems to be Solved or Categories of Achievement. These stepping stone goals, which are part of everyone’s process, are interrelated.

Have a problem with Anxiety?  Then, you have a problem with Self-Esteem or Creating Wealth or Achieving Success.

Benefits of this Ebook

·       Presents shortcuts to understanding yourself and problems to be solved.

·       Helps to quickly identify your Umbrella Goal and any Sub Goals for problem solving and achievement.

·       Helps you discover how to Manage your Anxiety.

·       Learn how to grow Self-Esteem.

·       Develop and establish Positive Thinking Habits.

·       Make the most of your Talents and Past Successes.

·       Find Strength and Courage in a history of Abuse or Neglect.

·       Learn how to re-parent yourself as you deserved as a child.

·       Turn any failure into a success by extracting its beneficial lessons and noting the strengths you developed.

Learn to understand yourself better by identifying various adaptive patterns.

 -        Did you become an Overachiever?

-        Are you excessively controlling, of yourself and others?

-        Did you become an underachiever?

-        Did you learn to rely on drugs, alcohol or medications?

-        Are you holding yourself back from Creativity and Success?

-        Did you “decide” that “you have no needs?”

-        Did you become Passive-Aggressive?

-        Do you have problems identifying and expressing your emotions?

-        Are you plagued by depression, anxiety and self-doubt?

A Human Being’s Basic Bill of Rights:

·       You have the right to have your needs met.

·       You have needs that deserve your attention.

·       You have Value, just as you are right now.

·       You deserve to be loved and appreciated.

·       Apologizing has redeeming value.

·       You do not need to be perfect.

·       You are not perfect. No one is.

·       Healthy Self-Esteem is necessary fuel for Life.

·       Self-Improvement can be fun.

·       Your past is “what happened” to you, not “who you are”.

·       Your survival and adaptive strategies are also about “what happened to you”, and not “who you are”.

·       Survival patterns and adaptive strategies can be changed.

·       You have the right “to improve your life” in whatever manner you prefer.

·       Harming others will never advance your goal to improve yourself or your life circumstances.

·       Positive self-esteem, joy, happiness, love, regret, loss, hurt, pain, success, failure and so on, are all part of life’s experience.

Your Goal:

Your goal is to get where you want to be in terms of problems solved and achievement goals realized. This makes use of The Power of Intention and The Law of Attraction.  What you focus on will come to you.

It would be a good idea to for you to STOP focusing on anything negative Right Now!

For Example:

I want to live my life in the fullest and healthiest way possible by growing self-esteem, reducing anxiety levels and building confidence within one year.

I want to grow my net worth by …..% within 2 years.

I want a Strong and Healthy Relationship in my life by the end of this year. . .

You want to achieve your Goals as safely and efficiently as possible.

The Road:   This road ill be paved with  Success, Failure, Strength, Defeat, Leaps Forward, Retreats, Heroic Days, Down Time, Friends, Foes – All part of the Process.

Ask Yourself This:

Can I still love myself after . . . . . . .  (fill in your greatest shame or perceived failure)?

The Ideal Human Being: 

He or She is not perfect.  He or she has Great Tools which they use to achieve their goals and grow in their best direction.

Self-Help Resources are Tools:   You adapt these tools to your needs and goals. Experiment first, then use the ones that work best for you!   You will get to your goals with the right resources.