How do you know when you're grown up? Is it when people stop asking you what you want to be? One of the first things I wanted to be was an only child - no hand-me-down's, no sharing, no comparing, no competition.Then I realized if I didn't have siblings, I wouldn't have anyone to share the blame.
From the age of ten I wanted to be a writer. I wrote the wordiest essays in fifth grade, which inspired my teacher to teach me about editing. The next thing I wanted to be was grown up; and when I was a teenager, I was sure I'd accomplished that.
Although I'd stopped expecting Prince Charming to rescue me from dragons a long time before, in my twenties I wanted him to rescue me from my life. Who knew Prince Charming would have his own problems? Who knew glass slippers could cause bunions?
Next I wanted to be a mother, so I read books - lots of books. Pick the baby up when he cries because a baby can never have too much love or don't pick the baby up because you'll spoil him. A slap on the hand teaches a toddler not to touch the stove; but no, slapping is physical abuse. Working teaches teenagers responsibility, but being a teenager is enough work.
The only rule I was sure about as a mother was the Golden Rule. Maybe one of life's rules is to keep growing up - to keep following your heart. No, I could follow my heart forever; but I'd never be a singer. I can't lift my voice two octaves, which explains why I can't carry a tune. Sometimes wanting isn't enough. In fact, I think my husband enclosed our shower because of my singing.
When I was a child and said I wanted something, my grandmother would ask what I'd trade to have it in my next life. I could trade a few IQ points without walking into walls. I could trade an inch of height and wear higher heels. I wonder if I could trade being a blond even though I'm not really one. No, if I came back as a singer, I'd be a sewing machine.
What it comes down to is I don't want to grow up. I want to keep growing by trying new things. I want to be Peter Pan and I want to fly!
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Thre are a few questions in here I need answers to thanks
By: voterperson | 04-08-2008
QUESTION One: Would you care if your mother, sister, any family member did not like where you shop for clothes or criticized where you shopped for clothes?
QUESTION TWO: Would you be wondering if they were laughing at you when you wear your clothes? Give details.
QUESTION THREE: How would you handle it if someone did not like where you shop for clothes or criticized where you shopped for clothes?
QUESTION FOUR: Do you agree with Roberta that it should not matter what other people think?
GIVE DETAILS:
Here is why I asking. Tonight Stacy and her mom went to her sister?s, brother-in-law?s house (and two nephews) for dinner.
Roberta: ?Where did you buy that blouse. At the 99 cent store?
Stacy: ?Yes?
Stacy thought that was the end of the conversation. But right after Stacy cleaned up the dinner dishes (to help her sister) and came back out to the dining room the following conversation took place.
Roberta: ?Why do you want to buy clothes at the 99 cent store. I mean you are not poor?
This got Stacy mad and she lashed out at her sister and her mom.
Roberta: ?I am not attacking you I am just curious.?
Stacy: ?But I like the clothes there. I don?t get the crappy ones and I get a lot of compliments?
Roberta: ?But you don?t know who wore them before - they are used. I can see buying jewelry there, paper towels, purses?
Stacy: ?I don?t care if someone else wore them I like them. And the ones I buy you cannot tell that they were someone else?s. And I rather buy them there then go to a department store and spend $28?
Mom: ?Stacy has tons of clothes from the 99 cent store?
Roberta: ?Stop yelling. So you are saying you rather have quality then quantity?
Stacy: ?I only get the quality? Stacy was getting madder by the minute
Roberta: ?Stop yelling. I am not putting it down I am just curious. I was just asking. All you had to say was the following ?I like them and I prefer to shop at the 99 cent store? instead of going into major explanations?
Then they had a nice discussion. Roberta told Stacy that it really should not matter what other people think. That even though their mom and Roberta feel that they would never buy in the 99 cent store that doesn?t mean that Stacy should stop. And that even though Roberta does not like Macy?s there are people who shop in Macy?s that doesn?t meant these people are wrong for shopping at Macy?s. The same thing with the 99 cent store. That there are people who shop at the 99 cent store and like it. Roberta also said that if Stacy went to Sephora?s with Roberta and Roberta purchased a lot of lipstick Stacy would think that Roberta is crazy. But Roberta would not care because Roberta likes makeup. And also that their mom says plenty of things to Roberta but Roberta ignores their mom. because she does not care what the mom says.
Also Roberta told Stacy that Stacy always dresses nicely and Stacy likes clothes. When Stacy asked do you like this blouse. Her sister did say it was pretty but that is not the point, that Roberta is sure that Roberta has worn things that Stacy did not like, Stacy replied true" so it really is not important if Roberta likes it or not.
Stacy did tell her sister that her mom is a hypocrite because her mother accepted four blouses that Stacy purchased at the 99 cent store and her mom has come with her to the 99 cent store to look at the clothes. Her mother got defensive and said ?I only wore one of the blouses you purchased, it had a ticket on it, and I never purchased anything there?
Title for car
By: maryck92 | 03-08-2008
Does anyone know at what age can you own and title a car in TN if you have a valid drivers licens. Is it 16,17,18?? Thank you
Stacy is really upset and hurt
By: voterperson | 02-08-2008
The last four days Stacy (in her 50?s) and her mom (in her 80?s) have been fighting. Today they started to get along again. However, today when Stacy was at the 99 cent store she called her mom.
Stacy: ?I found a blouse from Chico?s that Jennifer would like? (Jennifer is Stacy?s sister)
Mom: ?I told her you buy the blouses at the 99 cent store and you know she won?t wear it?
Then tonight
Stacy: ?What did you tell Jennifer?
Mom: ?Well the other day when you complained about me I complained about you to Jennifer and I told her you shop at the 99 cent store?
Stacy: ?But the ones I buy are nice?
Mom: ?Some?
Stacy: ?But I get compliments?
Mom: ?Some are stained?
Stacy: ?Well you can wash the stains out?
Mom: ?You purchased one blouse from a department store that closed 20 years ago?
Stacy: ?Well then you don?t care if I take back the four blouses I purchased for you at the 99 cent store? (And Stacy took the blouses. Her mom followed Stacy to Stacy?s room when Stacy took the blouses)
Mom: ?Well then I am going to take back the television set in your room. I purchased the Television for you. Let me see what you purchased today to see if they have any stains?
(And her mom started to look at the blouses Stacy purchased today. Stacy grabbed them out of her mothers hands. And they had some fight)
Then her mom got nasty with Stacy, but Stacy tried to calm her mother down. Stacy asked the following
Stacy: ?But I got mad because I felt like you were telling me what I purchased is not good?
Mom: ?I don?t even know what you purchased. I haven?t seen every thing. You have so much?
My question: (1) How would you interpret the mom?s remarks. (2) Would you care if your mother put down where you buy your clothes and (3) would care if she thought they were nice or not
But the clothes Stacy buys at the 99 cent store are really pretty. The ones that are stained you can hardly see the stains and can be washed easily.
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By: voterperson | 31-07-2008
If your mother said something negative to you about one of your sensitive issues do you care or do you shrug it off. Such as (1)"I don?t like what you are wearing" or (2) ?that is too big for you? or (3) ?or that is too small for you?. But you don?t feel the way your mom feels. Or any topic you are sensitive about And how do you handle it. GIVE A DETAILED ANSWER.
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