Stress Tips For Surviving Tough Times: How To Stay Calm Under Pressure

Life is getting every more stressful. So many of us have way too much to do and way too little time to do it in. And yet, the demand just doesn't let up. And we find that the more stressed we feel, the worse things get.

Staying calm under pressure can be so important, especially when it comes to getting things done or make that good impression during a job interview, but it's one of the hardest things to actually do. We're not exactly wired that way. So what does it take to stay calm anyway?

First of all, it helps to be prepared. Know that sooner or later, there'll be a stressful situation, and you'll want to make sure to have your arsenal of self-calming strategies handy and ready to go.

Second, breathe. This is not a joke. When we get stressed, our breath gets very shallow, and the body responds with generating stress hormones. If we take slow deep belly breaths, the vagus nerve gets stimulated, which results in more calming hormones. The result of that: instant calm. Or at least we'll feel quite a bit calmer.

Third: If you can, get some time out. Kids are not the only ones who can benefit. Go for a walk, preferably outside if you can, to clear your head, work off some of the stress hormones in your body and, yes, breathe. Think about what's going on. Get a bit of perspective before you return to face whatever it is you must face.

If going outside is not an option, excuse yourself to go to be bathroom. Or walk a flight of stairs or two. Anything to get away for a moment.

Fourth: Focus on the positive. There are two ways to do that. You can focus on the preferred outcome of the situation, maybe in the long run if that's all you can come up with. Think: What WOULD I like to happen?

Or you can focus on any positive aspects of the situation, starting with the most basic (you're alive. You can walk, talk, see, etc.) and moving to the more sophisticated (find SOMETHING positive about the situation or person who is aggravating you).

Fifth: Think about what you CAN do in this situation, and do it, one thing at a time. If it's a test situation, take it one question at a time, doing the easy ones first. If it's an argument that you can't win, bow out, or beg for time out to think, or even, if the end result is inevitable, get it over with and be wrong sooner (I'm sorry you feel that way). The latter is a strategy I learned from the late Roger Mellott. It's the "lose the battle and win the fight" principle. If it's an overwhelming job, start with one thing that will move you in the right direction.

There are many other ways to reduce stress, from aromatherapy to EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). But for the moment, these five will get you started on your way to calm.