Q. What happens when we let ourselves become dominated by negative responses to life, e.g. destructive behaviour patterns, negative emotions, apathy, etc? We find ourselves getting "worked up," often to the detriment of our own wellbeing as well as to those around us.
The result? We risk becoming increasingly angry and bitter about aspects of our life that we believe we have little or no control over. The solution? To explore the reality behind these actions and emotions, and transform them into positive causes.
Q. Are You?
- Too Easily "Affected" By Your Environment?
- Guilty Of Feeling Anger And/Or Resentment?
- Often Letting Yourself And Others Down As A Result?
Begin making the transformation today!
Q. What's In It For You?
- Discover The Reality Behind These "Reactions"
- Develop Ways Of Recognising And Countering Them
- Master How To Transform Them Into Positive and Proactive Causes
By learning to transform our negative "reactions" into positive "proactions", we create a far healthier state of physical and emotional wellbeing for ourselves and our environment. In turn, we become increasingly capable and responsible as individuals, and when faced with greater challenges we automatically find ourselves better equipped to deal with them and move on.
How do we achieve this? Simple - first we have to acknowledge what it is that's encouraging us to react in this way and then turn it around so as to create something more positive. For example, instead of reacting aggressively to a particular comment, we can learn to respond more appropriately by understanding what triggered that reaction coupled with its negative impact on ourselves and our environment. As soon as we've got to grips with the cause, we're able to turn it on its head and understand what it is we need to be or do differently. Another example: instead of responding with a defeatist, "I can't do anything about it," try saying, "I understand it's been difficult in the past, but this time I'm going to look at alternatives." Result - in addition to becoming far happier and resilient in ourselves, we naturally radiate the benefits of such actions to others.
INQUIRY: Take a look back at some recent situations when you allowed yourself to react negatively or angrily. What triggered this behaviour? What were your emotions and feelings before, during and after? Had you responded in a more proactive manner, what would you have done differently and what would have been the outcome?
ACTION: For the next thirty days, explore the reality that's causing you to react negatively to your life and your environment. Learn from the above and check in with any emotions and feelings. Get to grips with what it is you need to be and do differently and put it into action. Notice the difference you create within yourself and those around you.
I wish you every success as you Transform Negative "Reactions" Into Positive "Proactions" ...
Best wishes
Simon
"Man must cease attributing his problems to his environment, and learn again to exercise his will - his personal responsibility." Albert Einstein
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