Anger is not an uncommon human emotion. We all do feel it at different times in our lives. However, if your anger has reached such proportions that verbal and physical abuse to those around you has become common, you quickly need to curb this emotional state. It is finally you yourself who needs to take the first step towards bringing your state of mind back into reasonable levels on anger.
Here is the first thing you need to realize - people don't like people who cannot control their anger, If you cannot stand being around a person who unleashes verbal abuse at the slightest mishap, chances are your anger does not go unnoticed either. People tend to start avoiding such characters, and that is why angry people do not often make good relationships with other people.
Many people sometimes get angry with themselves when they were not in control in a given situation. The positive way to look at this would be - make sure it doesn't happen again. At the same time it is good to keep in mind that we cannot always come out on top, that's not what life is about. There are always things beyond our control and there always will be.
Accept the fact and learn to forgive yourself when you can. Life is not always easy, and it is best to accept that fact that there has not happened anything to you that no one has faced before. Everybody goes through hard patches; some do get a worse deal than others at times. But life does go on, and it is best to move with the flow. Nothing lasts forever, not even bad times! So it is better to stop worrying about them and to move on in life.
Once you realize the fact that you can after all be in control of your emotions, you will never want to let the emotion of anger get in the driver's seat ever again. Once you start to smile more often than you scowl, you will quickly see the world looks much better this way. Also, people like being with people who smile, as opposed to people who are always angry.
Did you know that your verbal ability can cause a torrent of emotion to flood your body? Talk positive even if negative emotions do enter the mind, and the emotions will turn positive, in line with your verbal reactions. Anger management is an exciting journey - one which is well worth the effort, and one where it is only for your own benefit. Once you learn to control the anger emotion, you will see how different life can be!
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By: wendi | 09-07-2008
My ten year old stepdaughter was adopted. Her adoptive mother died when the child was 3 years old. Now she can't do anything on her own. She can't make even minor decisions like what to wear. When she is asked a question or is asked to do something she will just stand there and stare like you are speaking another language. She constantly wants to be near her dad. I understand that it was hard losing a mother at three years old, but how do i get her to become more independent with minor decisions?
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By: Jangle | 09-07-2008
My wife was raped at 13 years old by four of her classmates. Since then she has had 2 marriages. The sex in the first marriage was non-existant. The sex in the current marriage is semi-regular and both parties are "mostly" satisfied. However, she cannot bring herself to touch any part of my sexual anatomy. It is quite clear that she enjoys the actual intercourse part. She also enjoys foreplay performed on her. I am not aware of what happened exactly during the rape, other than that their where four misguided boys. What can I do? I am very happy with my marriage and she says that she is also. We are both around 40 years old. Our current sex life is Ok, but I need a little variety. I kept hoping that the 40 year old female sex drive would snap her out of it, but nothing yet. HELP!
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By: jmdillon | 09-07-2008
Hi all. All I can't say is, help. About a year and a half ago my father was diagnosed with stage IV bladder cancer. Since then it has spread to his lungs, liver and abdomen. Nurses say he has several months. My family is in Ohio and I am working in Washington, DC. I am 23 and my dad is only 55, unfair if you ask me. My dad and I have always been close. He is ordained in the Methodist Church and has worked in the church for years so our family has always been involved together in the church. The last report we got from the doctor is that the masses in his lungs have doubled and tripled in size in the past 2 months since he chose to stop treatment (it was doing more harm than good). So, at 23, i'm dealing with something way beyond what I am prepared for. But, on top of this, my boyfriend of 2.5 years, with whom I live, has decided to go to Cornell (500 miles away) for a graduate program. Sean, my boyfriend, has been my stronghold, my shoulder, my rock since my father was diagnosed. As poorly as I may be handling my father's condition, it has definitley been better than had Sean not been with me to support me. My support system of friends and family are all in Ohio, so Sean is all I have here. My question is, how do I do this? I personally don't think I am emotionally capable of maintaining a healthy long-distance relationship with half of my heart being in Ohio with my family. I need someone to BE there for me. What do I do? How do I end a relationship I never thought would end, and live to see the next day? How does pain like this not kill a person?
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My girlfriend and I have been having sex for a few months now but ive been having a problem since weve started- i seem to have premature ejaculation- i dont know why, but it always happens. For a while i would get depressed afterwards and i understand that that has dropped her sex drive. Ive recently accepted it and no longer become depressed after. However her sex drive hasnt come back also i have never been able to give her an orgasm. She doesnt masturbate and im her first so she doesnt know herself. Ive been trying to give her an orgasm before we even have sex so its not such a big deal if i ejaculate early and id feel a bit better. But again i dont know how to do it or even help her sex drive to find out on my own. Any help would be much appreciated. Thank you.
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