If one defines happiness, it can be seen as a state of life in which you feel pleased with everything. It is a 'feel good' thing. The other feelings associated with happiness are contentment, love, delight, safety, sexual pleasure and utter joy. There are many things that bring this sort of momentary happiness. These include things like winning a lottery, harmony in personal relationship, a trip you are looking forward to, a new promotion - the list is endless.
Isn't happiness a much better option than the feelings of hatred, pain, suffering, sorrow and disharmony? In fact, it is important that every person should experience happiness in their life rather than these negative feelings.
Some psychologists have actually found a solution to achieve this goal of happiness. It is in the form of a formula that has to be followed for you to become truly happy. This formula is as follows: pleasure when added to engagement and then added up with meaning gives the end result of happiness.
But aren't you wondering how this equation has come about? And how can you experience the feeling of absolute happiness? Don't be worried if you do not understand this formula in totality. Let us explain it to you so that you too can attain your goal of true happiness.
Becoming happy is not an easy task. We face so many problems everyday that it is so easy to fall into a low-life condition like sadness or depression. However the fact is that no one can avoid problems. But you can apply this formula of happiness, without even becoming a psychologist. But what do you really need to do? Let us share with you some inputs to make your struggle for happiness a truly rewarding one.
Craving for pleasure is inherent in all of us. We may crave for the simplest pleasures like the pleasure of enjoying a good day, seeing a rejuvenating sunrise, simple jokes, laughter shared between friends to the most complex pleasures like success in an endeavor and love.
Another factor that is crucial to your happiness is engagement. You can find complete contentment and happiness if you are doing something that you really want to do. However, upon being forced to do something that doesn't hold your interest, you will be unhappy. All these elements give meaning to your life. When you have the feeling that your existence is valued by the people around you and that you belong in this world, your life will become more meaningful and enjoyable.
When you start appreciating your life and the lives of other people around you, you will experience the feeling of genuine and absolute happiness. Happiness is not just all about you, and neither does it arise from being perfect in front of other people.
Often, people are very conscious about how they should behave or what they should do, because of the expectations of the people around them, or the society. Unhappiness often stems from this fact. Happiness essentially refers to respecting and loving one's own self and others. When you are able to strike this balance in life and are able to be at peace in your heart, you definitely can and will attain your goal of happiness.
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I feel nervous everytime i go to work. esp. in the ...
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i feel nervous everytime i go to work. esp. in the morning. i often skip work without the knowing of my wife. sometimes i am absent from work for a week.
Can Doreen accept her mom always thought she was thin
By: voterperson | 30-08-2008
MY QUESTION AFTER YOU READ EVERYTHING: Do you agree with what I said? AND AFTER TODAY?S CONVERSATION CAN DOREEN ACCEPT THE FACT THAT HER MOM ALWAYS THOUGHT DOREEN WAS THIN
UPDATE TWO WEEKS LATER:
Doreen: ?Can I ask you something?
Mom: ?What?
Doreen: ?You always thought I was thin?
Mom: ?YES I ALWAYS THOUGHT YOU WERE THIN
PART ONE
:: OK yesterday Doreen?s mom (in her 80?s) and Doreen (in her 50?s) went to a movie.. Any way as the movie started all of a sudden Doreen got very hot and extremely dizzy.
Mom: ?What is wrong?
Doreen: ?I feel dizzy?
The dizziness stopped but Doreen was nervous a little bit throughout the movie. When the movie ended:
Mom: ?Just wait until we get into the car I want to talk to you?
Doreen: ?Well if we are going to have a fight I don?t want to hear it?
Mom: ?Then take the bus?
But Doreen got into the car
Mom: ?You have to stop drinking coffee?
Doreen: ?I know I am going to stop?
(And Doreen thought that would be the end of the conversation - wrong)
Mom: ?I know you drink coffee for weight loss. You don?t need to lose any more weight?
Doreen: ?But I was always skinny?
Mom: ?Yes but now you are even skinnier?
This got Doreen mad and they had some fight. When they came home her mom said nasty things to Doreen and Doreen said nasty things back to her mom.
Mom: ?You need to gain weight?
Doreen: ?No I don?t?
Mom: ?It isn?t just the coffee but the way you eat?
Doreen: ?I like salads?
Mom: ?But when you order a salad they give you mostly lettuce and six strips of chicken you leave over two.?
PART TWO; (THE NEXT DAY);
Doreen: ?Mom do you want to know why I got mad yesterday it is because you made it sound like I wasn?t always thin?
Mom: ?That is how you hear it?
UPDATE (TWO DAYS LATER):
Doreen: "Mom you always thought I was thin"
Mom: "Yes"
Doreen: "What about when we had another fight at home after the fight in the car and you said that I get mad if people call me fat"
Mom: "Who would ever call you fat. I only said that because I was mad"
Then Doreen called me and I told her that ?her mom always thought she was thin. Her mom just meant you were always thin but noW you are even skinnier? MY QUESTION: Do you agree with what I said?
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By: helpme4 | 29-08-2008
What do I do for a 4 year old with anger aggression problems?
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I m suffering from left knee pain since more than ...
By: fahad | 29-08-2008
i m suffering from left knee pain since more than 3 weeks. before six month i was having same pain in my left knee 2 -3 weeks but this time i am having pain not only in left knee but also bone from knee to ankle andalso in ankle jointsometimes,sometimes in left wrist too.the pain is internal, no any external painis there.no pain on touching skin no swelling(sogen) on skin, nothing is externally. i walk daily more than half hour not continuesly,10 minuts at a time. when i went to doctor he checked my uric acid level,it was 7.6 before 10 days,he gave me medicine named "no uric".now i chcked my uric acid after ten days in another hospital it is 5.7.the normal range is 3.5-7.0.doctor said me not to eat meat,beaf ,grains(dal),chicken and advised me to eat only vegiterian food and fruits.when i went to another doctor he took my x-ray,the doctor said x-ray is showing nothing,,if u have to know about disease,fluid from u r joint must be taken out by injection and sould be test than only disease will be diagnosed. am i realy suffering from gout or having any other disease.doctor said me if u will not take care of u r food u r kidney will be damaged by uric acid.the medicines are giving make temporory relief,i m becoming well when taking medicines but when i stopped to take medicine suffering with pain again,however the pain is less as compared to my previous condition.at start it was difficult for me to bent the knee completly,now i can bent it easily.sometimes even withoutmovement i feel the pain internaly. at the start of disease when i felt pain ,i was feeling more pain early in the morning as compared to day time.please guide me what to do?shuld i test my joint fluid?is there any disadvantage of this test?should i stopped to take medicnces?is there side effects of medicince? what about no uric tablet?should i take it while i m having uric acid level in normal range? can i eat chicken?can i take anti-inflamatory tablets. what is the name of disease which am i suffering? is it gout?following is the detail of medicine which i have taken. name of medicine contents 1.no uric 100 mg Allopurinol 2.olfen-50 mg diclofenac sodium 4.ciproflox-500 mg ciproflaxacin hydrochloride monhydrate. 5.takepron-30 mg lansoprazole doctor said me to take "no uric" tablets upto 3 months. please suggets me what to do,i m very worried about it.i didn't find here any good doctor,
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By: pcl | 29-08-2008
i am having sex with a younger married woman outside my own marriage and to win the competition with her husband and retain her i use performance enhancing drugs i am not attracted to my wife and have no desire to have sex with her what should i do
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