How Can We Turn Our Life Around?

“We Can Only Change Our Lives If We Change Ourselves!”

The highest and most important level of Revat brings to light what kind of a person you are, how you feel, whether you lead a contented, happy and harmonious life ...
Revat is about change, as it is very clear in external Revat (physical self-defense): We become an attacker rather than a defender, if the opponent is stronger our punch turns into a defensive movement, our advancing step becomes a turn or even a step backwards. If we are rigid or refuse to change, we lose our balance.
We cannot change anything about the opponent’s attack, we have to accept it; but we can change something about ourselves. Instead of pushing the opponent’s arm (attack) away, we push ourselves away (from the attack). If we picture the opponent’s arm as an immovable object like a wall, the problem becomes clear: We cannot push a wall away, but we can push ourselves away from even the strongest wall.
For many years, I have concerned myself with internal Revat, the highest level of the program. The object here is no longer to defend yourself against an attacker, nor to gain control or influence over others, or to achieve fame and fortune. The third and most important level is about yourself. It decides what kind of a person you are, how you feel, and whether you lead a contented and harmonious life.
You can win several million dollars, but if you think this will decisively change your life, you are wrong. You can move from London to New York, but if you think your life will be different, you will be disappointed. Whether you drive a new Bentley or an old VW beetle, whether you are rich or poor, you will not feel very much different – indeed probably worse, for you will always encounter the same problems and have the same difficulties with the same types of people. You will always feel overlooked as before and think you have been cursed. In short, you will suffer, and the world will seem like a vast factory where suffering is produced.
This is because you believe you can change your life by changing your circumstances in life. You think you can solve problems! But this means that you are somebody who believes he can push the wall away!
You can travel to the most beautiful places in the world, but after a while you’ll be confronted with the same problems again because you have remained the same. The way you are, your nature, attracts a certain way of life to you like a magnet.
If you want to change your life you need to change yourself as a person. For as long as you stay the way you are, you will attract the same life and the same difficulties. The way you are determines your life, and it will keep confronting you with the same intractable problems. Your problems will not become solvable by changing your external circumstances, by finding another job, a different home, a better-looking girlfriend or a more attractive man. After a short time you will be in the same, uncomfortable situation again.
Accordingly, the highest level in Revat concerns yourself, so that you can push yourself away from the “wall” of external events. If you can do this, you can change your nature and become a different, new person who will attract a new and different life.
How does one become a different person? It starts with wanting to be different. When the strain of suffering becomes too great, such people feel the wish to put an end to their suffering. The first step is a kind of self-observation: “Know yourself!” People do not really know who they are, though most would insist that they know themselves very well. But while we are usually able to assess others fairly accurately and can pinpoint their weaknesses, our own negative traits always remain concealed to us. If someone were to mention them to us, we would vehemently deny that we are like that. Some form of integral shock absorber prevents us from seeing the truth about ourselves that is so obvious to the outside world.
We are not always the pleasant, friendly and lovable person we think we are. All the difficulties we have are in some way due to our nature – we are to blame for everything that happens to us,… nobody else.
When the spotlight of self-observation falls on us and we start to recognize that we are not the wonderful person we imagined, this is the start of a process of change. Although nothing about your external circumstances in life has changed, (you still live in the same home, do your shopping at the same stores and cannot afford a vacation in paradise), you have begun to change yourself and therefore your life.
Let me reiterate: Do not try to change your circumstances in life or push the wall away, push yourself away from the wall and change your position – change yourself!In order to change you must take snapshots of yourself like a dispassionate camera, and recognize how you really are.
You must become aware of how rarely you are aware. We humans are like robots, like machines that are driven by the great wheel of life but do not know it. We live in the illusion that we control our own lives, and that we always act responsibly and consciously.
Accordingly we must observe ourselves to recognize how seldom we act consciously. Realizing how unable we are automatically makes us a little more conscious. So observe this living being that bears your name, and catch yourself when you do nasty things. Do not excuse yourself. Do not look for reasons that justify your behavior. Recognize that you are no better than the person you are condemning for the same actions. After all, it is you! Whenever you condemn something in another person, look inside you and check whether you do not exhibit the same behavior towards others!We ourselves are to blame for all the problems for we like to blame others. We do not really know ourselves, and it is not clear to us that as the individuals that we are, we attract a certain life. We give everybody else the blame - the circumstances, bad luck, and the lack of opportunity, the envy or malice of others – and prefer to assume conspiracies and mobbing, but we leave one unknown out of the equation: ourselves! Perhaps our creators or guardian angels are sitting on some cloud and making bets about which person will be the next to recognize his or her true self and his or her greatest weakness, thereby taking the first step on a long journey towards individual psychological evolution and transformation.

Sincerely, Ingo Weigel Revat Center For Personal Safety