Al Link and Pala Copeland own and operate 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra. They regularly host lover's romantic weekends near Ottawa Canada, and weeklong retreats in exotic locations. For more info Visit www.tantra-sex.com, www.sexyspiritualrelationships.com and their blog www.askaboutloveandsex.com or send email: 4freedoms@tantraloving.com
Vision and Purpose
Choice is the foundation of all Four Freedoms. You reclaim your freedom by making new choices and acting consistently to support those choices. Although you won’t get what you want if you don’t know what it is, you don’t have to know exactly what you want before you get started along your path. Your vision becomes clear and your purpose in life will reveal itself to you, if you are making choices, taking action, and learning from your mistakes. Your first step along the path to total freedom is to consciously embrace and reclaim your Four Freedoms. Rereading this book will help you, but doing the exercises will make a greater impact.
Think carefully about what the Four Freedoms are, and then make a conscious choice to fully integrate them into your daily living. Write the names of the Four Freedoms on a sticky note and post it where you will see it. Every day repeat aloud one or more of the affirmations below (or your own versions) as a guide to help you manifest your freedom.
I choose to live, to awaken, to evolve, to be free.
I choose Body Freedom. I love my body.
My body is naturally beautiful just as it is now.
My body is the sacred temple for soul.
Pleasure is good. Sex is good.
I open to all of the glorious senses by which I can know the world.
I will touch my lover today.
I will ask for what I want from my lover.
I will take care of my body so it remains healthy.
I choose Mind Freedom.
I have the power over what I think about and how I think about what I think about.
I will think only about what I do want.
I will consistently think about what I do want in a positive way.
I will think about freedom, success, abundance, happiness, love, health, and peace.
I will act to support myself in moving closer to my vision.
I will bring my vision into alignment with my purpose in life by following my bliss. I will do what I love to do.
I choose Heart Freedom.
I give thanks to be alive.
Thank God(dess), our Creator, for allowing me the great gift of feeling.
I choose to feel everything.
I welcome all the joys and sorrows of loving another human being completely.
I choose to open my heart fearlessly. When it closes, I will endeavor with all of my being to reopen it again and again.
I will act in spite of my discomfort.
I choose relationship commitment.
I will do my inner work to become fit for our relationship.
I choose to love my mate unconditionally, to trust, to forgive, to be kind.
I choose Soul Freedom.
The universe and God will support me in doing what I love to do.
In following my bliss, I will act to move forward regardless of how difficult or hopeless my circumstances might seem.
I have faith that in offering to be of service to God, by using my natural talents and abilities in manifesting my vision, I will find a way through challenges, adversities, setbacks, and defeats. Ultimately, I will have the true desires of my heart.
I choose to surrender completely to God’s will, knowing that however badly things might seem to be going in the present moment, just around the corner is something better than I could possibly have imagined, planned for, or accomplished with my own will power.
I choose to be completely and totally free.
When you reclaim and integrate your Four Freedoms, you open wide the gates to the garden of love. Here you reap what you sow, a harvest of abundance, joy, and love that surpasses all understanding.
Excerpted from our new book Sensual Love Secrets for Couples: The Four Freedoms of Body, Mind, Heart and Soul, by Al Link and Pala Copeland, Llewellyn, 2007
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