Copyright (c) 2008 Keith Shaw
It is a human condition for us to feel "less than" others. Perhaps it is the need we feel to "keep up with the Joneses" or our own lack of self worth or lack of self esteem. For instance you may have recently been to a party, social event or restaurant and felt that you were not up to the same level as all of the "beautiful people" there.
Perhaps they had suits or dresses that were custom designed and tailored.
Or they were slimmer.
Or their hair was less gray.
Or perhaps these people drove up to the front door and left the keys to their expensive, new Mercedes, BMWs and Cadillacs with the valet attendant while you "self parked" your tired, 10-year-old car w-a-a-a-a-y in the back of the lot so that no one would notice.
Do physical traits or material possessions prove or mean that they are more successful or better than you?
Of course not!
It all comes down to what I call - THE ATTITUDE OF YOUR MIND. Your mind and the attitude of your mind affects your facial expressions, selects the actions that you make (and you know that every action affects everything you achieve in life), affects your physical health, regulates your life and your interactions with others.
At this point many of you, especially those who are "set" in your ways, may ask: "How can I change the attitude of my mind? How can I, after months and years of discouragement and of going through the motions, suddenly conceive and carry out a plan for doing something that will change my current situation and make my life more rewarding?"
The answer is that it can be done, and others just like you have done it.
Do you consider yourself of AVERAGE ability? Even if you do, you can still be successful, independent, free of worry AND be the designer AND master of your future if you will commit to do these two things, forever.
1) Einstein once defined insanity as doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. How about what you are doing? Do get what you want, when you want it? Then become and remain forever dissasitfied with what you are doing today and your current situation in life. Plain and simple - Aim high and SHOOT for the moon.
2) Develop in your mind a belief that the word IMPOSSIBLE was not intended for you. Build up in your mind the confidence and courage that enables the mind to use its power.
"If you think you are too small to make an impact, try going to bed with a mosquito in the room" said the author Bette Reese.
So in conclusion, here's the moral of my story to you...
Size DOES matter. Within you, even at this very moment you have the power to take action and make an impact.
It is up to you...
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