10 Things That Men Find Sexy

Over the years I've had numerous conversations with my male friends about what they find sexy in a woman, and I've been keeping a running tab on the comments.

The list below, and its accompanying explanations, may surprise you. Remember, this is an aggregate list, presented in descending order, and derived from men with diverse personalities and backgrounds.

10. Physically attractive
This is probably not a surprise. The surprise is that it's number 10 on this list. Being physically attractive is apparently the golden ticket to enter the sexy girl's club. How is "physically attractive" defined by men? The way that you probably think. Yes, it's stereotypical; hip-to-waist ratio, girlish facial features, and symmetry (how well-proportioned a woman is). These physical qualities still reign supreme in an idealistic sense.

9. Approachable
Ironically, the more physically attractive a woman is, the less she gets approached. Many beautiful and/or successful women will agree. It's not that men prefer flawed women, they are just more comfortable approaching a woman who does not appear to be "perfect," and thus; may be more receptive to them...and their flaws.

8. Cool personality
While it's true that men grow up wanting the cheerleader/model/stripper, they also appreciate the "girl next door," who has wholesome, down-to-earth qualities. While spending time with her may feel like time spent with "one of the guys," she will always reminds us that she's a woman - and a sexy one at that.

7. Open-minded
There are several reasons why men want a woman to be open-minded. The first is that it means she will entertain different ideas and perspectives which could go a long way toward building and maintaining a relationship. It also means that she may consider a threesome - no matter how remote of a possibility.

6. Competitive
Women are competitive with each other when they are single. They need to retain that same competitive spirit while in a relationship. The type of competitiveness that men find sexy is when our women can identify another sexy woman, and best her sexiness. In other words, know what we find sexy about another woman and emulate it.

5. Confident
Being with an insecure woman is like being in a boat with a slow leak; eventually it will fill with water and sink. So will the relationships that men try to have with such women. Men find confidence sexy - especially in the bedroom.

4. Good hygiene
Sexiness is healthiness. It's also cleanliness. From clean smelling hair and breath, to every crevice of a woman's body. Extremities should be clean and edible during intimate moments, and scents should arouse and endear.

3. Orgasmic
Simply put: nothing is more intoxicating to a man than the vivid memory of his orgasmic lover during his last sexual interlude...except the interlude he's going to have with her in the next 30 minutes. Women who know how - and expect - to have orgasms during each sexual encounter are placed in our sexual hall of fame, where they can only be displaced by...a woman who is more orgasmic.

2. Strong sex drive
Considering that most men feel that women don't want sex as much as they do, it only makes sense that women who want sex would be second on this list. For a man, a woman who likes sex, is sexy. A woman who likes sex and wants it frequently, is a keeper.

1. Comfortable with her sexuality
A woman who is comfortable with her sexuality tends to be comfortable with all things sexual. She can discuss sexual desires, experiences, and needs. She has rare, sexual enthusiasm and is not concerned with her man's past lovers because she is competitive (see number 6).

In fact, she feels sexy all by herself, but she loves the sexual attention that her man gives her, and her man loves the fact that she does not have sexual hang-ups. She's comfortable making love in a bed, or having sex in a car, and she's not interested in having a philosophical discussion about the differences between the two.

She is sexy as hell, and her man loves her more because of it.