You've tried everything and still can't get her in the mood? Not to worry. In my duty to provide men with the most accurate information on female sexuality, I decided to conduct a nation wide survey.
Okay, it wasn't exactly a nation-wide survey. I contacted my female friends (most are straight) and asked them, "What truly turns you on?" So now you're privy to all their naughtiest secrets.
Below you'll find the sexiest secrets ever revealed on what gets us hot and oh so horny! Use these tips tonight to get her juices flowing!
1. Give Her Sexy Thoughts
According to the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, researcher Rosemary Basson, MD concludes that women must convince themselves to want sex before their sexual desire kicks in. Many women agree, including myself. Arousal starts first in the mind. Give your woman sexy thoughts throughout the day to stir her sexual desire. Send her sexy text messages or emails while she's at work. Include little reminders from when you had great sex. Tell her what you want to do to her once she gets home. If your hesitant and are afraid she'll be offended, start off with a fun flirty text message. My personal favorites are from www.lingo2word.com. There you'll find hot text messages such as "I love every bone in your body, including mine!" These sexy messages are just what I need to start thinking about sex and becoming aroused throughout my day.
When I get home, I'm so fired up, I jump on my husband! -Susan, NY.
2. Massage for the Booty
For most massage is a solution to stress, for women it's soo much more; it's an invitation to sex. Unlike a man's sex drive which can withstand a lot of outside influences, a women's sex drive is severely affected by factors like stress and anxiety.
As a women with a lot on my plate (work, kids, husband) my sex drive was at an all time low. In fact, it was to the point that my husband basically gave up trying. One night, I came home with a body ache and asked my husband to give me a massage. Little did we know we were going to be in for a treat!
As my body relaxed and my mind began to drift from stressful thoughts, I began to enjoy how great it felt to be touched. Because there was no pressure for sex, I was able to let my guard down. One thing led to another and soon enough we were both experiencing the hottest steamiest sex ever!
What did it for me was his incredible ass massage. The extra attention to groping, rubbing, and squeezing my ass, got my blood flowing in all the right places. It was just what a needed to experience an intense orgasm later. - Marisa, CT
3. Come Home Dirty and Sweaty
Believe it or not, women love rugged looking men. There's something secretly sexy about dirty men. Brad Pitt, Harrison Ford, and Russel Crowe for instance, are irresistible to women because of their renegade appearance. Not only that, the scent of sweat is an aphrodisiac to women.
According to James V. Kohl, coauthor of "The Scent of Eros," women are led by their sense of smell when it comes to sexual attraction. They are especially receptive at detecting pheromones, a special aromatic chemical released by humans to sexually attract one another. Another study, conducted by Bern University known as the "Stinky T-shirt Study" concluded that women were attracted to the pheromone chemicals left behind by men's sweat.
What does this mean? Let yourself get a little dirty and scruffy for your women. Fix her car with your shirt off or get hot and sweaty over a game of basketball. Either way the scent of sweat and the salty taste of your skin will drive her wild!
I'll never forget the first time I saw my boyfriend sweaty and scruffy; it was just the right opportunity to let him know I can get down and dirty too! - Jessica, FL
4. Talk Dirty
Talking dirty was once intimidating to me, now it's essential to my sex life. In the past, my girlfriend's competed with one another about which boyfriend said the freakiest thing during sex. I use to be very jealous and wished my sex life was as exciting as theirs. One day, I asked them how they became comfortable with talking dirty and how it was introduced in their relationship. Based on their advice, here's what worked for me and what I suggest for couples.
First, fantasize about having sex with your partner and talking dirty to them. Soon enough, your thoughts will be expressed out loud. Start out by describing what feels good during sex. For example, you can say, "I love the way your... feels in my..." Describe what movements feel good to your body or what you're going to do to your partner. If your at a loss for words, research sexy erotica novels for a list of words. Remember, there is no right or wrong way to talk dirty. Don't try to imitate movies; be yourself. This will be more comfortable for the both of you. Once you have the right environment to talk dirty, sex is exciting and extremely passionate.
Now, all my girlfriends are jealous of my sex life! - Carolina, SC
5. Listen to Reggaeton
I'm from Puerto Rico, the home of Reggaeton, a new genre of music also hitting the United States. Reggaeton is a mix of Latin reggae and rap. The lyrics and rhythm of reggaeton songs are extremely sexual and erotic. The artists in these songs describe candidly what they want to do to women. Lyrics such as, "Te suelto el pelo, te quito la camisa, tu pantalón y después, te como completa," describe a scene where a man unties his woman's hair, takes off her shirt, her pants, and performs oral sex on her. Men should play reggaeton during sex to unleash wild fantasies in a woman's mind.
Listening to reggaeton stimulates erotic scenes to play out in my mind. I'm left fantasizing about freaky wild sex and become very horny. Even if you're not Latin and don't understand the language, bringing a foreign element to the scene such as this is highly erotic to women. After all, Spanish is the language of love! - Raquel, PR
6. Play with Sex Dice
What truly turns me on is sex dice. If you haven't heard, sex dice is a set of regular dice but with sexual content on each face. For instance, there are sets that have one dice describing action words such as "lick, touch, tickle," and the other dice naming body parts such as "ass, tits, and lips." Sex dice come in many variations. There are some that describe a sexual position and a location to perform the act. Others are solely used for anal sex or oral sex. The list is endless. I personally own a set of just about each sex dice out there. I use them with my partners whenever I want to spice up the night. First, I'll start off slow and use a soft core sex dice. Then, as the night gets steamy, I bring out the freakier sex dice until we're engaging in the wildest sex ever! Since sex dice come in many variations, couples can find the right one for them. Whether your looking for some light fun or new ideas to spice up your sex life, these sex dice work wonders.
Couples can invent their own games, complete with sexual penalties for losing as well! It's tantalizing fun! - Adele, Paris
7. Use Blindfolds
Focusing on the senses is extremely arousing. Blindfolds are a great way for women to focus on his every touch and for men to learn exactly what pleases his women.
My boyfriend uses this technique to get me oh so horny! First, he gently lays me on the bed , tells me to relax, and close my eyes. He softly wraps the blindfold over my eyes; then begins to caress my skin with his fingertips. Since, my sense of sight is gone, the rest of my senses are heightened. His every touch feels exciting and erotic. He goes on to remove my clothes, one by one and kisses my bare skin as he moves along. I never know what he is going to do next or where he is going to touch. My favorite is when he when he dips his finger in sensitizing oil and strokes the outside of my vagina softly then firmly. This technique is just what it takes for me to beg him to give it to me! I recommend men using this technique as well. Once your fingers land on the right spot, your women will be throbbing with arousal; she'll beg you for sex! - Ariana, CO
8. Take her Dancing
Many men aren't aware of the sexuality in dancing. While, romantic dinners can lead to the bedroom there is nothing more arousing than a night out dancing. When women are dancing, they begin to think of their body as sexy and graceful. Their self confidence increases and are no longer shy to expose it later on during the night. Dancing is like an ego booster for women. A woman can let loose, dress sexy, and feel good about herself. Not to mention, the atmosphere in a club, is less intimidating and proper than a fancy restaurant. I'm not saying to skip the fancy restaurant; in fact it's crucial to show women that they deserve to be treated with respect and class. However, a night of dancing helps jump start the sexual chemistry between two people.
Once you've developed a strong bond with one another, she'll be looking forward to showing you a sneak peak of her wild side. The club is just the right place for it! - Natalia, Moscow
9. Exercise with her
Did you know that working out increases sexual desire in women? A women's libido, is affected by the amount of testosterone in her body. As she ages, the levels decrease and her libido (her desire for sex) declines. Exercise works to promote testosterone levels in women and thus play a role in stimulating a woman's libido. So what does this have to do with turning women on?... Everything! After exercise, my mood is lifted; I feel sexy and confident all day. Men should take women on dates which involve physical exercise like bike riding or rollerblading. Her levels of testosterone should increase about 20 minutes into an exercise session, and will remain elevated for one to three hours after exercise. Through out the date, she will feel energized and pumped. As her testosterone levels rise, she will be open for sexual advances. Believe me, it works.
When my boyfriend and I come home after a day at the gym, we're so amped up; we have sex as soon as we walk through the door! - Becky, MA
10. Lick it
Nothing, absolutely nothing turns a woman on more than oral sex! It's a definite must. Oral sex is very important to women. In fact, once we find a man who can please us orally, we rarely let him go! Part of the criteria for women in finding the perfect lover is going down south. Women love men who go down because it's a sign of experience and confidence. This lets us know that a man is not limited in sex and will be able to please us in multiple ways. What's more arousing is a man that is open to taking direction. If we can mold our perfect oral sex partner, the better! Be open to pleasing your women orally, even if you don't like the taste. There are plenty of flavored lubes that will make the experience more pleasurable for you. It doesn't matter if you lack the expertise; books also help with oral sex techniques. The key is commitment to becoming the ultimate oral sex master.
Do whatever it takes; the work definitely pays off! - Savita, Bombay
On a closing note, I hope that I have delivered a better understanding into female sexuality. As you can see, simple things such as sending sexy text messages or letting yourself get scruffed up is all it takes for women to desire sex. It's not always about technique but about setting up an inviting atmosphere for sex and pleasure. Give these secrets a try and thank me later!
Gabrielle Moore is author and owner of The Female Orgasm Revealed. She also owns the website http://www.femaleorgasmrevealed.com
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