2 Ways to Introduce Your Partner Into Having Anal Sex

If you never experienced anal sex before and you think that you may want to venture into that kind of sexual activity but are a bit unsure how to go about it, don't worry your not alone. All you need is some lubrication and a little tender loving care from your partner. The anus does want the attention so give it what is craves. It's an erogenous area that can be played with as gentle or as aggressive as you want it to be.

First and absolutely foremost take the opportunity to discuss anal sex with your partner. Make sure that your partner is interested and open minded to the idea. This can be very general and intimate. I'm sure that that your partner would be up for exploring what anal sex could be about because most couples are always looking to add variety to their love making. That's a fact so don't think you're a freak for doing so.

Secondly, I strongly recommend that you start out very carefully and gently when introducing anything into the anus. This can be a very pleasurable experience for your partner or it can be a painful and uncomfortable experience. Whether you decide to start off with your finger or a small anal dildo or vibrator it is extremely important to use some kind of lubrication.

There are lubrications specifically designed for anal sex which help to ease the initial discomfort. You know the anus in a tight sphincter that can stretch but it needs to be relaxed to receive a larger object because the muscles will tighten up and basically grab a hold of what ever is their when you orgasm.

I know I've said this before but for couples who are new to their sexual discovering of each other it's important to take a basic approach. The approach is to insert any object or finger very gently and slowly. Be very kind and gentle by easing your way into it. Never just stick anything into the anus because it will hurt. If you do this you will run the risk of turning off your partner to what could be very pleasurable for the both of you.

You need to take the time to arouse your partner. This process relaxes the body and initiates the desire to want what ever your about to give. Start by massaging around the anus. Slowly work your way in and out with a finger first and when you notice that your partner is really getting into it start adding larger toys.

This is usually the beginning of the self discovering of your own sexuality which generally leads to more erotic forms of sexual activity. Most couples like to experiment with a variety of dildos and vibrators which is a whole new kind of stimulation in itself. Just be very gentle with your partner because you want her or him to trust you.