First Meetings - Advice for Newcomers to Swinging

If you have ever felt inclined to check out what swinging is all about and whether it is for you, join a few online swinger dating clubs and follow these one-step-at-a-time guide lines.
Arrange up your first meeting in a non-intimate setting such as a bar or café. Even if you have already attended a swinger’s club and met another couple you liked there, it is still wise to make the next meeting in an everyday place rather than in someone’s home or hotel room. Use this opportunity to find out more about the couple as people rather than just focussing on their attraction as sexual partners.
Dress attractively without dressing provocatively. Guys should aim to look smart casual but the most important thing is that you both blend into the environment that the meeting takes place in.
Once you are all seated and have ordered drinks, get the conversation going about the normal, everyday subjects that you would cover in any kind of meeting. However you need to be careful to avoid detailed questions about jobs and things that might make the other couple feel threatened that discretion is in danger of being broken. Many swinger couples are terrified that someone is going to find out ‘too much’ about them. This might be because they have children, parents or even other partners who they keep their swinging secret from. If you are drinking alcohol, be careful not to have too much and lose control of the situation.
If the conversation keeps drying up, it is probably time to re-think whether the other couple are right for you. Even pure lust needs some level of intellectual rapport to make it enjoyable for long.
After a while you will be getting a pretty good idea as to whether the other couple are really for you or not. If the indications are that it isn’t working out, be brave enough to admit it and terminate the meeting as soon as possible without causing offence.
Assuming all goes well and you really strike up a friendship with the other couple, you can start directing the conversation towards more sexual related matters. Frankly discuss what you want from the swinger relationship and listen carefully to the responses you get, ensuring that you consider everything from the other person’s point of view. Don’t be shy of discussing the rules of the game with regards to safe sex and your personal boundaries. Never assume anything. There are actually swingers who play unprotected. If you just assume without checking that safe sex is on everybody’s agenda and end on the bed with a couple who want play bareback, your evening of fun might end before it even begins!
With a meeting on neutral, non-intimate territory achieving these goals, you will be ready to confidently move on to the next stage: a meeting where the physical fun can begin.