Gay Cowboys: Do Women Like to Watch Men Have Sex?

Several weeks ago, I went out to dinner with a female friend. During dinner I asked her if she had seen Brokeback Mountain yet. She said, "No, I have no desire to see two men kissing all over each other." I asked her if she would be willing to do me a favor and see the movie anyway. I told her I had a theory and I wanted to see if I was right about something, so she agreed. We met for lunch after she went to see the movie. I asked her what she thought - it turns out that she loved it. I asked her if she was turned off or disgusted by any of the sexual scenes; she said, "No, surprisingly enough, I wasn't turned off by them at all." I decided to take it a step further. I asked her if she was turned on by any of the scenes in the movie. Her face turned red and she said, "I have no idea why, but yes, I was turned on by them." This isn't the first time I've heard a woman say that after having seen the movie. I think I know why women are finding the sexual scenes in Brokeback Mountain so arousing, but before I explain, let me digress just a little.

During an interview a radio talk show host brought up the fact that females aren't as visual as males. She said that was the reason there aren't nearly as many male strip clubs as there are female strip clubs. As I discussed in Women's Infidelity, the word "more" creates a lot of confusion between the sexes. Whenever it has been determined that one sex is "more" of anything, we fail to remember that the other sex still has that trait, only to a lesser degree. For example, males have more hair than females, but that doesn't mean that females don't have hair. Males like more sexual variety than females, but that doesn't mean females don't like sexual variety. Likewise, males may be more visual than females, but that in no way means that females aren't visual. Having said that, I would like to address not only how women feel about watching men have sex, but also how women feel about male strip clubs as well as male prostitution.

Heterosexual females are attracted to masculinity. Women don't get turned on by watching men act like women. So, going to a strip club and watching men dance around in what can best be described as bikini panties is not a turn on for most females. If you want women to pay to see men, then build a bar with a glass front on a construction site and you'll make a fortune. The female animal likes to watch physically fit men work. If men want to get women's attention, all they have to do is take off their shirts and lift something heavy or pick up a shovel and start digging a hole. Trust me, men would receive the same kind of attention that they normally give to partially exposed, pushed-up breasts.

This explains my friend's arousal during the sexual scenes in Brokeback Mountain - the sexual scenes were extremely masculine. The men weren't caressing and cuddling with each other; the love scenes were very passionate and aggressive. Passion and aggression are what arouse the female animal.

Now, on to the issue of male prostitution, someone just recently asked me, "If women like sex as much as men, why aren't there more male prostitutes running around?" Well, I can think of several reasons. First of all, until recently, women didn't have any money, so obviously paying for sex wasn't an option. Likewise, females experiencing pleasure from sex is also something that is relatively new. Prior to 60-65 years ago sex was only thought of as pleasurable for males; therefore was no information available about how to please women sexually. Plus, when females did experience sexual pleasure they were encouraged to hide their pleasure from their partners in order to make the men feel more secure. However, those reasons aside, there's still the undeniable fact that a male has a hard time pleasing just one female, while a female has the ability to please many males...although now, Viagra may help to alleviate this problem. (For further explanation see Women's Infidelity, Chapter 6: Why Women Find Affair Sex Particularly Appealing.)

Therefore, in the past, circumstances were such that male prostitution couldn't even be a plausible fantasy, much less a reality. Men like porn because it is made to appeal to their desires and fantasies. Now that women have economic freedom for the first time in history, they are able to voice their desires - more and more it's becoming clear that who they are and what they desire is quite different from who they were forced to be in the past.