More and Better Sex - 8 Tips for Men

1. The more emotional pain a woman carries, the less she wants to be touched in her private areas.  And, unless a woman has a man who completes her, she IS carrying emotional pain – it's just a matter of what degree.  Most women do NOT have such a man.  That means you have a huge opportunity...

2. Take the judgment out of sex.  Forget about questions like, "Did I do it right?" or "Was that good for you?" or "How do I feel / look?"  Instead, make it a time of connecting, exploring, and experimenting.  Make it a time of conveying feeling.  Make it a time of expressing love through touch and skin contact.  Make it a time of playfulness.  Have a sense of humor.  Let silliness, awkwardness or mistakes be ok and something to be laughed about.

3. Come up with words that work for you and your woman that you can use to build excitement when making love.  Come up with a way that you can "talk dirty" and it be exciting for your woman.  Vagina and Penis are a little on the clinical side for most women.  On the other hand, hardcore street language is too crass and demeaning for most women.  There's something in between that does work though. 

4. Be courageous enough to communicate directly with your lady.  For example, using the preceding point, ask your lady what she would like for you to call her vagina during foreplay and when you're making love with her.  You can start with soft terms like "flower spot" or "honey pot".  You can give her off-beat terms such as "juice box", "yum-yum", or "happy valley".  You can give her the standard terms like "muff", "pussy", or "slit".  And just for completeness sake, be sure you give her the option of selecting some of the hardcore terms that you would never think she'd like.  Some women will surprise you.  You've got to find out because you never know what words your lady has a positive association with.  And, while you going through this process, you should also find out which words she has a negative association with so that you can avoid those words.

5. Specifically say and do things to make your wife feel special and loved.  You may know that you love her but unless you explicitly convey it to her, she doesn't know.  Further, just because you're going on a vacation next month doesn't mean you've expressed love to her.  Just because you've spent money on her or gave her money for something she wants doesn't mean you've communicated to her your love and affection.  The physical nature of money and things is a long, long ways from the emotional nature of connection and communication.  Don't ever forget that.

6. Related to the previous, providing for basic needs is NOT the same thing as satisfying and fulfilling.  If you are a normal guy, your parents provided for your basic needs of food, clothing, and shelter.  But, you DID NOT want to stay with them for the rest of your life, did you?  No!  You wanted something more.  You wanted a woman...someone that could satisfy and fulfill you.  It's the same for your lady...she wanted a man who could and WOULD satisfy and fulfill her.

7. Do something really sexy...stop trying to impress your woman in whatever ways you're trying to impress her and instead, be impressed with her.  Be impressed with who she is.  Be impressed with all that she offers.  Be impressed with all that she does.  Be impressed with how she loves you and excites you.  Be impressed with her goals, dreams, and aspirations.  Be impressed with the endless zenith of love and joy that's within her.  Be impressed with her for a change and she'll be impressed with what a sexy man you've become.

8. Help your wife boost her self-esteem and her willingness to get sexual by providing her with the way and means of dolling herself up at whatever level works for her.  Even if it's more practical for her to wear "boring but functional" clothing, she can still rev things up within her own mind by wearing something soft, lacy, and pretty underneath.  It doesn't matter where it's at or even if it's completely in her head – as long as SOMETHING is giving her a notion of "pretty" then she'll FEEL prettier – and she'll become more interested in connecting with her man.

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