It's easy in today's society to try to force yourself into one category or another where your sexuality is concerned. By society's standards if you are a woman that is attracted to and has relations with other women you are a lesbian, if you are a man that is attracted to and has relations with other men you are gay, and if you are either male or female and you are attracted to both sexes then you are bi-sexual. These standards are fairly rigid, especially because for most of us sexuality is a journey, an exploration not only of the people around us, but also of ourselves. If we force ourselves to be shoe horned into one of these categories or another we may not be experiencing something that we could really enjoy or that may be a large part of who we are.
Don't Force It!
If you are predominately attracted to one sex or the other don't force the issue. Yes, by all standards you may then either be gay or straight but there is no need to assume that things couldn't change. Even if you are a man that has always been attracted to women there is nothing to say that there isn't a man out there that is so perfectly suited for you that you wouldn't at least consider a relationship with him. Does this mean that you are no longer straight? No! It just means that you cannot force the issue. You are not who you are attracted to, and you cannot force yourself to fit into one orientation or another. You are who you are and you are attracted to people because of who they are.
Go Ahead, Experiment!
If you are curious about whether or not your mere attraction to other men or women may be physical why not experiment? As long as you are safe and you take precautions to only experiment with people who are equally as safe, as discretionary, and as quiet about their sexual encounters as you are you will find that you can experiment and find out what else may be out there. If you enjoy yourself, then you will have found a whole new side of yourself. If you find that it is not for you, then you know and you will have grown as a person.
Sex should be Fun!
Sex is a form of expression, and only you know and can choose who you want to have sex with. You don't have to have sex with only one type of person or one sex to be okay with yourself. As long as you aren't hurting yourself or anyone else, allow yourself to have fun with your body and to explore through sex and sexuality. Too many people hold back and identify themselves through who they have sex with, and that really is not any way to live!
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