Sex-less, Debt Indulged Marriage: Why Debt Starves Out Sex in Your Marriage

Sex in a marriage is one of the most precious and “life giving” gifts God has given us all.  It is intended to be enjoyable, intimate, and draw couples closer.  However, approximately half of all marriages in this country fail.  So, it is obvious something is replacing the joy of sex in these relationships.  My opinion is that debt has taken the place of sex for the average American married couple. 

People love to feel the thrill of something in their lives.  Whether it is sexual or not, we as humans thrive on feelings.  So, putting sex aside, let’s explore some things that give us that temporary feeing of extreme happiness such as:

• Buying a new car






• Buying a new house






• Going on a shopping spree






• Going on vacation






• Giving / Receiving Christmas and birthday gifts.

So, that is just a list of a few things that cause us happiness, and those things are all in fact wonderful.  But, what do they all have in common?  Yes, they all cost money, and most American households will go into debt for at least one of these, and many go into debt for all of them.  Let’s explore buying a new car. 

Buying a new car is so wonderful and it is absolutely delightful to take your new car and show all your friends and family.  However, what happens after two months and the newness is starting to fade.  You are stuck with a massive payment for years (more debt), and you no longer have that wonderful “new car smell”. 

The same is true with Christmas gifts.  I delight in the opportunity to give Christmas gifts as much as the next person, but let’s look at what most people do.  They justify in themselves that this is only one time each year and it is okay to put these gifts on the credit cards; after all it is for the kids.  Now, ask yourself, your kids, your friends and your family what they received for Christmas last year.  Do you even remember?  I know I certainly don’t remember everything I received.  My point is that it is fine to lavish your loved ones with gifts, when you can afford them.  Otherwise, do not go into debt for Christmas and birthday gifts, your family will still love you!

Now, let’s bring it together.  People are going so deep into debt to buy a temporary “high”, when in fact if they would get on a great financial plan with their spouse, budget their money properly, and pay off debt; that is the ultimate high.  And guess what, the sex is a wonderful by-product of that effective communication and financial responsibility between you and your spouse.  Your grandparents did it right, and most of them are not divorced, so have fun, have sex and get out of debt today!