Jane Thomas author of www.WaysWomenOrgasm.org WaysWomenOrgasm.org provides information about female sexuality including details of how women orgasm with a partner. The discussion of female sexuality covers women's orgasm techniques including their use of clitoral stimulation and sexual fantasies.
Pornography is defined to be 'sexually explicit material (verbal or pictorial) that is primarily designed to produce sexual arousal'. Two women give their views on pornography:
Helen Longino: "I define pornography as verbal or pictorial explicit representations of sexual behavior that ... have as a distinguishing characteristic 'the degrading and demeaning portrayal of the role and status of the human female . . . as a mere sexual object to be exploited and manipulated sexually'."
Why is it assumed that men must always be exploiting and women always exploited in sexual scenarios? When women object to pornography is it because they assume that any sexual act must always be solely for men's pleasure? Is it not possible for a heterosexual act, at least sometimes, to be as pleasurable for the woman as it is for the man?
Susan Brownmiller: "hard core pornography is not a celebration of sexual freedom; it is a cynical exploitation of female sexual activity through the device of making all such activity, and consequently all females, 'dirty'."
Most men are not sex perverts and only enjoy positive images of naked women. So how do these pictures make the woman 'dirty'?
Let's face it: people who object to sexual pleasure have never actually tried activities other than vaginal intercourse with a lover. So is it that many women cannot imagine that they would ever enjoy more adventurous sex with a partner and so they believe that no one else should?
Perhaps women dislike seeing themselves portrayed as sexual beings - people with physical attributes that other people find sexually arousing? Or is it just that women don't understand because they don't become aroused by looking at pictures of naked men? Answers on a postcard...
This is the apparent contradiction in our society's portrayal of women's sexuality. We assume that women enjoy sex as much as men, including their own arousal and orgasm during sex, and yet many women are disgusted by even a hint of the eroticism that is at the core of our enjoyment of sex.
I am not particularly offended by men's enjoyment of pornography because, although I don't use sexual images for arousal, I do use sexual stories. One might be tempted to call one: 'visual pornography' and the other: 'verbal pornography' but women prefer the term 'erotica'.
Erotica is a genre of literature that includes sexually explicit material as a primary feature. Unlike pornography, erotica is not aimed exclusively at sexual arousal (but it's not exactly 'art' either!).
Gloria Steinem: "a mutually pleasurable, sexual expression between people who have enough power to be there by positive choice . . . . It doesn't require us to identify with a conqueror or a victim".
Ironically, many erotic stories for women include more sadism and domination than is ever implied in the average pornographic magazine (at least the ones that can be bought in an everyday store - as opposed to hardcore). So why is pornography always bad but erotica is more often OK?
Let's be clear about one thing though: most reasonable people would consider any pornography MORALLY WRONG that is produced as a result of the real-life exploitation of one being by another.
Thus any sexual act with animals, children (most usually persons under the age of 18) and anyone who has been coerced into sexual activity through emotional, physical or financial intimidation cannot be supported by a civilised society.
Jane Thomas: Author http://WaysWomenOrgasm.org and http://Nosper.com
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