Why We Should All Self Pleasure

First off we we have to look into wht is the point of self pleasure.This is very important but please remember that pleasuring yourself is not about how many times you come to an orgasm or even if you orgasm at all. It is about pleasing yourself, making you feel like no one else can.

Self pleasure and Guilt

"I feel guilty masturbating", that is a recurring theme in the emails I get from my readers. The guilt of self pleasure differs within each case. I cannot begin to cover all the eventualities here but this section is an open discussion that I hope will allow women to see that masturbation far from being something to feel guilty about should be something that is embraced and enjoyed.

Self pleasure has been condemned for a long time. Religion cast it as a sin and although we have moved on as people to become more self aware the stigma attached to self pleasure has stuck with some people still unable to truly feel comfortable about gaining pleasure from their own body.

In fact the sense of guilt is very important to in woman; they refrain from self pleasure more than men and admit to it less easily. This can be a result of repressive mind-sets of certain parents can prompt a later sense of guiltiness. The guilt from self-love can also be credited to fantasies that can go back to childhood that are connected to self pleasure. Which then makes a women feel guilty to revive them when they have a well rewarding sexual life.

Self pleasure isn't dirty, dishonourable, or hazardous for the health. Unbelievably though self-pleasure has been considered for a long time to be a bad habit which is due to centuries of mis-education and prejudice that have turned something that should be enjoyable into something guilty. The present day translation maintains the disapproving image alive: to masturbate comes from the association of two Latin words, manus (hand) and stuprare (soil, make dirty). Self pleasure doesn't make you wrong, mad or even give you acne. It can be a sign of emotional problems if it becomes compulsive but it really is something to embrace.

Women can feel guilty about resorting to masturbation as if they stole something from their significant other: if to be fulfilled by self pleasure leads you to decline sex with your partner, obviously there is a predicament. But, in a couple, it is not necessary that we do everything together; must all pleasure be strictly shared? Sports, music and shopping do you have to do them all together? When masturbation isn't an escape, but a search for a balance, then you both will be at ease, and can experience a healthy sex life without tension. Where as frustration due to an insufficient sexuality might cause you to resent your partner, and even wish to turn away from sex with him or her.

In fact self pleasure can be practiced in front of a partner. In a lot of couples it proves to be very exciting. It can be the best means to learn how a lover prefers to be stimulated. Each can guide the hand of the partner to show him/her which pressure and which rhythm the woman prefers. Mutual masturbation can really spice up a sex life and open the door to experimentation. One's desire can be increased by seeing the pleasure of the other. One can also self-love before or during sexual intercourse: it serves then as a prelude, increases the excitement, or allows the couple to perfect sexual intercourse.

The use of self-pleasure open up doors to other possibilities it can reduce the over use of vaginal penetration and bring in a new area of enjoyment and variety into the bedroom. It offers many different ways for women to reach orgasm and other types of pleasure. In women it can bring a force of excitement that is not allowed by either the softness of a vagina nor the obligation to hold on for a certain time.

In conclusion there are a many ways women can live out their sexuality. Self pleasure is one: by yourself or in the presence of a partner, frequent or occasional, solitary or mutually shared, it colours the life of one person, is absent in the life of another one, is accessible with out ever being imposed, something that people can take or leave according to their impulse.

I hope that this article has opened up the prospect that masturbation is really something that can have so many positive benefits for women and can really be a gateway to a more rewarding sex life for your partner and yourself. It is practised by many women and for most it has been something that has only helped them in life. This section only gives a general introduction to self pleasure and guilt and many women may still have questions or still feel unsure. Please read this article again and see that self pleasure can really be such a positive influence.