5- Steps You Can Take Today to Find Love in Your Life

5- Steps You Can Take Today To Find Love In Your Life

By: Carlos Duran

Did you know all humans share one identical dark secret? In fact, it is the deepest dwelling fear inside each and every one of us…it is the fear "I am not good enough to be loved." Can you imagine? We all are walking around sharing the same chains of bondage holding us from finding love in our lives, but hardly any of us dare speak out loud about it. Every one of us has at one time or another been haunted by this little secret. Those who have grown to see past the Maya (illusion) of this fear know exactly what to do to send it crawling away with its tail tucked between its legs. And after getting in touch with these 5-steps you too will know how to kick this lie out of your life and send it packing into the nether regions of existence! Once you overcome the little secret finding love in your life becomes easier than falling off a wet log.

1) Why It's Important To Know YOU Are Worthy Of Love

If you agree with yourself that you are not worthy of love then everyone else will agree with you as well. After all it is you who determines what your personal value is and what you deserve in this life. Perhaps as a child you were abused, or picked on, or ignored to the point were you could have sworn you were invisible. The truth is any and all similar experiences do hurt and they program the wrong message into our mind-space, both conscious and sub-conscious.

2) Investing In Yourself

As we grow older we carry the negative impressions of our childhood with us, often replaying them time and again and even passing them on to our own children. It was destructive actions that recorded the notion into you that you were not good enough and it will be progressive actions that erase this poor message and in its place record the correct message, "You are in fact worthy of love, you were created from a place of love and you will live a life of abundant love."

3) Take Action Today

If the bad taught you the ugly then the good will teach you the beautiful. Begin with a simple list of all the things you would like to do but have been holding back from doing. Pick one thing that you can start today and realistically complete.  Maybe it is something immediate like buying a certain book or CD. Perhaps you desire to explore a spiritual path or see yourself having a blast in salsa dance class. Maybe what you're really crazy for is to succeed in a new profession.  It all matters, be proud of yourself for having the desire to grow to stretch to leap even if you are scared. Because as one of my great masters taught, "It is better to be scared and moving than to be frightened and frozen."

4) Breaking Down The Barriers

As you begin to invest in yourself you will begin to teach your inner being that you matter to YOU! Now find one thing you can do to volunteer your time. As you begin to invest in the people and the community around you, you teach your inner being that YOU matter to others. You realize you do have the power to effect positive change both in your internal and external environment. When you volunteer you go outside of yourself, as you go outside of yourself by serving others your self-doubt and depressions begin to melt like Himalayan snow in the Sedona Dessert. Sharing for the sake of sharing is a magnet for the law of attraction in your life. It is important to understand that you should not expect material returns because you share money or time or anything else. Sharing creates a return of love in your life, it manifests in many ways. The inside trick to volunteering is to focus 100% on your commitment. Watch to see what happens as you surrender to the time and action without thinking of yourself.    

5) Love Is The Way Home, Forgiveness Is The Key To The Front Door

If you want to find love in your life, make a daily commitment to loving yourself. Love does not rise and fall as the tide, instead it is a steadfast unconditional expanding rhythm. Permanently anchored, it is not dependent on any outside source or influence. Do little things for yourself that honor you. For example, take long baths, lotion your body. Eat foods that are delicious and healthy. Meditate. Speak loving words to yourself. Play games and be sure to laugh often. What is important is the process of loving yourself. It will put out the signal to the rest of the universe that you do love yourself, you are worthy of love and in response all will agree with you

Forgiveness will blow closed doors wide open in your life. Forgiveness doesn't mean you have to love those who hurt you. Forgiveness starts with a desire to let go of the pain and to releasing the anger you hold inside against someone. It is a process where you begin to see yourself no longer hating the other person and giving your self permission to not feel like a victim.  At first it goes and comes in waves, on some occasions forgiveness can be instant like a clean cut from an umbilical chord. If you have to face this person daily be bold, be fearless in sharing respect.

If you want to super-charge your magnet for the law of attraction forgiveness is the special ingredient in the formula. It makes-way in your life for new blessings to manifest, like clearing out a closet stuffed full of old items you don't need anymore. Make room for new and better things in your life by throwing dead-weight off your chest and allow your spirit to be free, happy and strong. There is an ancient mystic path which teaches a prayer for tuning yourself to the energy of forgiveness, it goes like this, "Dear Creator I ask the forgiveness of all those I have hurt and trespassed against. I give forgiveness to all those who have hurt and trespassed against me. I ask that no one be judged nor cursed on my account.  I ask that I not be judged nor cursed on the account of anyone else." Will it be easy at first? Will you truly feel like you have forgiven? No not always. Sometimes, like a sore muscle you have to stretch and massage it before the pain is truly gone.

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--Carlos Duran is a professional writer raised in the mean streets of New York and New Jersey during the Crack Era of the late 80's and 90's. His life journey transformed a sinister-mind into one of peace and has inspired him to the share spiritual short-cuts he learned with the World. His website http://www.answersyoucanuse.com publishes inside information from leading experts and super-minds on <a onClick="javascript:pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/article_exit_link');" href="http://www.answersyoucanuse.com">spiritual growth, natural healing and finding love</a>, along with secrets you can use to generate peace, power and prosperity in your own life… To contact the author email: Carlos@answersyoucanuse.com

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